When Life isn't going the way one expected it should, hiding is a natural response for most people. Turning inward, isolating and protecting the raw emotions that might receive too much exposure. At one time or another, none of us hid and we were innocently open, needing to be nurtured and soothed, but instead we were scolded, or humiliated, violated and abused. These became our teachers for how we would deal with life for the rest of our existence.
Think about that?
We have been to school with teachers named ~ HUMILIATION
What could we possibly learn from them? But, learn we did and in the process of their teachings we acquired the art of concealing, because this is a good skill, keeps you safe and worry free from further inflictions. Is that true? Believe it or not, that's what we actually think is truth.
Here's the dichotomy:
Many of us grow up to be parents and when our children hide something important, something they learned from Humiliation, Violate, or Abuse, we feel outraged.
We don't take it lightly, we burst into action and concentrate all of our efforts to nuture, protect and vindicate them. We implement justice on their behalf and gird ourselves with armor as their guardians.
So what happens to us, the adults, when those teachers re-enter our lives and decide we need a lesson or two?
We become experts at handling this when it comes to our children, but why do we insulate ourselves when we
are the students? When were we informed that hiding is the best form of action for pain, disappointment and abuse?
For me, I somehow made a point to put myself at the end of the line when shit happens. I also decided at sometime in my life, that my lessons would be a burden to others, if shared.
My point is...hiding is not healthy. It may feel
like the right thing to do, but it's not. When we become the students, we also need guardians, warriors and nuturing. We don't ever outgrow the need to have others involved in our learning. We need each other and this entire process has a name and unfortunately, hiding has given it a bad reputation. Concealing important events has diminished it's effect and original impact, the word is
Trust...and that's what children and adults alike, also learned from life's teachers, how not
to trust others. Therefore, including people now becomes an effort and an act of bravery on our part. And that is a choice we have to make with no guarantees attached. It is a hard choice, but a healthy one.
Choose to trust. Think about the teachers names and become a rebel against their philosophies...