Friday, February 16, 2007

What Do You Do With Your Lemons?

"When life gives you lemons....make lemonade"

Oi...I thought about that little diddy all day long...ironically, I'm allergic to citrus, so lemonade would give me a migraine. I've changed it to better suite my life..."When life gives you lemons...go to Starbucks!"
~*~Everyone who knows me, just rolled their eyes :-) and no, my picture has nothing to do with lemons. I just thought it was pretty.

So, yesterday I told you about my really terrible horrible no good very bad day and I hung out with all of my lemons. I felt sorry for myself, had a pity party, talked my mom's ear off and then spent the rest of my day with my bff. We literally sat on the couch chatting until the sun began to go down and we slowly turned into shadows as she shared her vacation stories that included almost drowning in the ocean, while trying to take a picture for a friend.

We cried together (not about her almost drowning) and we laughed (also, not about her almost drowning) but, the best part had to be the laughing.
We laughed...
We laugh all the time...
We laughed the entire time we spent together!
We even talked about laughing...specifically, the effect of hearing the laughter of someone you love. After she left, I conjured up the recent sound of Mark laughing in his room, I mean a real belly laugh and it sounded so wonderful. Then, a few days ago, Mark and I were talking and something we said hit us both and we couldn't stop laughing! He was in pain, holding his newly healing stomach and that made everything even more funny.

Why is it, that when you can't laugh, things seem more funny?

Well, I laughed out loud, to myself as I thought about laughter... and yesterdays complaints dissipated. So, I have decided to change, yet again, the lemon statement...

"When life gives you lemons...laugh... and then drink the beverage of your choice from a cup like this"..........(thank you dear sweet Lisa ;-) and thank you all for being so kind to listen to my ranting, that eventually turned into laughter. Your wonderful words helped to get me there!


Blogger gena said...

I am glad you are feeling better! yes a good laugh is the best tonic! and how clever is Lisa? that cup is beautiful!

11:44 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

I´m glad to read that your laughing again. Once you start to laugh, it´s hard to stop doing it :)

XOXO Sophie

11:52 PM  
Anonymous Brian said...


It's been awhile since I have commented, but I have read when I have been able. I am finally starting to feel better after being off work for three weeks. Hopefully by next week, I will be well enough to go back to work.

I have read with great joy to see all of Mark's progress and success. I have also felt such sorrow at all the pain you have taken upon yourself. Life and Lemons seems to be a constant refrain lately.

1:20 AM  
Blogger Becoming Amethyst said...

I'm to spend the day with Jemima and hoping for a few belly laughs of my own. Beautiful cup!
love x x x x

1:38 AM  
Blogger Shaz said...

Laughing, it keeps me going and I am so glad you found the medicine you needed today.
Love to you sweetness.

2:26 AM  
Anonymous Annie Morris said...

Mmmmmmm A cup of bead soup?

Beautiful cup for a beautiful lady.

So glad you could spend the close of day like that. How wonderful. It reminds me of when I was a little girl, having my cousin over to stay, and giggling until the wee hours. Getting absolutely drunk without a drop of alcohol is such a precious gift. May we never loose it!

A toast to laughter, and all who sail in her..... or something like that.

Sending you and yours love from me and mine,


3:07 AM  
Blogger Fern said...

I gave a friend a card that said
" When life gives you Lemons..... throw then at who ever is annoying you." I gave him a basket of lemons with it. : )

3:58 AM  
Blogger Jone said...

Laughter is the best, the rip snorting, unitl you cry laughter. I am glad you are feeling better than the other day. Have a wonderful day.

6:25 AM  
Blogger Angela Marie said...

It felt good to sit on your BIG comfortable couch with you, have a good cry and laugh. I have soooo missed you sweetie!

It was worth coming home empty handed without any groceries in tow!! giggle ;)

love~love~love YOU!!
OXOX ummm.... another (((hug)))

6:28 AM  
Blogger s@bd said...

"When life hands you some lemons, just have some more root beer."

- Veggie Tales

6:35 AM  
Blogger Kim G. said...

Hey Darlene! I've just been catching up on your posts and the "Elephant" post caught my attention.

"(Sometimes) I wonder what the hell is there left for me to accomplish."

You have such powerful stories and experiences. I think it would be so wonderful if they could reach a broader audience. Have you ever considered writing a book?

A few years ago my husband was misdiagnosed with epilepsy and it was such a frightening and unknown road down the path of "chronic illness". We struggled with this mis-diagnosis for a year and a half before we were blessed with a "cure". He had a severe heart condition that was causing him to black out and a pacemaker has solved the problem.

A real and authentic voice of someone who has gone down that path that chooses not to wallow in the gunk but is honest about the bad days, would have been an encouragement during that time. You are such a gifted writer and I have been so encouraged and blessed by your spirit. If nothing else, you have a powerful effect on your blog readers, so please keep writing!

7:40 AM  
Blogger LisaOceandreamer said...

There have been studies done about the good effects of laughter - I've actually heard you should try to laugh at least once a day. Sometimes it's hard to do. Being able to sit and laugh like that with your bff was the best medicine. A good old fashioned belly laugh until you almost can't catch your breath....priceless. I am delighted dear, sweet Darlene that you had those moments and I hope you have many more. Pity Parties are essential even if you're the only one in attendance, you have to be able to feel whatever it is.
I am glad you received and like the cup.
I hope you have more moments/days of laughter dear Darlene.

8:06 AM  
Blogger Amber said...

Laughter has always saved my sanity. Really! I think one of the reasons my mom and I were able to make it through all the crud, was because we could ALWAYS make eachother laugh!

And I have read that it raises your energy vibration, too. Must be something to it.

Love that cup!


8:27 AM  
Blogger Star said...

Laughter is essential. My husband and I have a habit of making up silly songs as we get ready for work each morning. Sharing laughter and focusing on fun is always a good start to our day.

Hugs and Laughter :D


9:53 AM  
Blogger sammy said...

I read thru your blog this morning and felt so touched by all you and your family has gone thru.... I love the different items yu have wrote, kind of like poems, there is so much feeling in each! I also read that you have lupus, as I have... It is such a ugly disease... I detest it and never give it any praise...Thou I do praise my father for his support and grace ... I hope you also feel is love, grace and strength for you and your family! Thannk you so much for sharing as you have...

10:53 AM  
Blogger amy said...

Laughing is so good. Laughing with a BFF is even better. There have been times that my hubby and I have watched a movie that at other times would have been totally stupid, but was what we needed at the time to blow off steam.

When life gives me lemons I make some kind of creation out of the art stuff I have lying around the house.

Glad to hear that you had a good day yesterday.

11:01 AM  
Blogger LEstes65 said...

You are awesome. Thanks for that post. And I feel like I need to go make some pottery after seeing that cup! I'm inspired. Maybe I'll paint one with your new motto on it!

Love from TX...Lynette

12:38 PM  
Blogger angela said...

2 beautiful photos.
And yes there's nothing like laughter formaking you feel better..everything becomes more manageable.
Keep laughing.

12:46 PM  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

when life gives you lemons let them be don't have to do anything with them...

1:13 PM  
Anonymous teresa said...

There is nothing better than quality fun time with a best buddy. I am glad you are feeling better!!

FYI: My baby girl is engaged!!

Love you!!


1:32 PM  
Blogger luzie said...

Laughter is the best medicine, or so it says, right? Sharing laughter with dear and close friends is so precious, it's refreshing and helps you recharge. Your post made me smile, Darlene.


3:05 PM  
Anonymous ceanandjen said...

Hurrah for laughter...and a wonderful BFF...and for Starbucks! ;-) So glad to see that you are feeling better today. We all have those terrible, don't know what to do with ourselves days, but some are worse than others, and given everything that you have gone through, it is no wonder!

I am smiling for you!!!!

Love to you!

4:17 PM  
Blogger Mary Timme said...

I think going to Starbucks and laughing are the best choices in the world!

5:02 PM  
Blogger Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

So happy to hear you could indulge in the joy of laughter with your bff. Yeah! JP

10:36 PM  
Blogger The Mad Hatter said...

Darlene its been sometime since I came by, life took me in a few not so nice places over the last few weeks ... so its been difficult to drop in and check up on y'all ... but ... Im so glad to *hear* you laughing again ... moreover ... Im so so happy that Mark is looking and doing great :-)

Keep up the good work. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Maddy xXx

4:25 AM  
Blogger Jerri said...

Friends like Lisa are proof of God's existence. So glad she was there for you.

8:26 AM  
Blogger Pam Aries said...

I AM SO HAPPY for you that your son is on the mend! When I saw the pictures of him at home....and Saw that big bright smile ...I know that you must be mre than ecstatic! Have you guys heard about "The Secret"??? There is a story about a man named Morris Goodman ...Ya'll need to read his story!!!!

3:20 PM  
Blogger turquoise cro said...

AwwwWWWWW! shucks! Wish I could have been there laughing and crying with YOU and Angela Marie!!!! I'm sooo GLAD you have her so near Darlene!!! I LOVE those special moments when you get so tickled with your children laughing! Phew! Those are Godsend moments, aren't they???! and that cup soooooo pretty, is that turquoise I seeeeeee???? hehehe!!! Love you sweetie! xo, Cinda

5:44 PM  
Blogger Trish Ryan said...

As usual, you are so right! Laughter really does make it easier to handle life when it seems like elephants aren't just in the middle of the room but coming down the stairs, standing in the doorway...

Bless your BFF for helping stir up the joy in you!

7:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


Just wondering how its' going. Thinking of you today.


8:23 PM  
Blogger magicaldamselfly said...

Oh Darlene how nice it is to read this post. I have been working way to much that last couple weeks and haven't had time to leave a comment but I do get on here daily and keep up with all my wonder*filled bloggie family and this has made my entire week. It is so heart warming to know that you are laughing as laughter is the best medicine there is.

Keep laughing and know that you are loved,

4:32 AM  
Blogger bee said...

oh, darlene, i'm sorry you had a bad day, i wish i had been around to send you a hug. i'm so glad that you had a good one, afterwards.

friends really are amazing, aren't they? the best ones, who make even the worst situations better just by being there.

11:14 AM  
Blogger Becoming Amethyst said...

I see you've been working on your new designs ~drool~ can't wait to get my next order in!!!

12:51 PM  

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