Thursday, October 12, 2006



I don't usually talk much about the great love of my life, but yesterday as I was sitting on the Doctor's examination table, swinging my legs, waiting and watching my husband's furrowed brow as he read a magazine, looking 'O so fine' in his suit and tie, I thought, "I wonder how many women's husbands come to the Doctor's with them?"

I guessed probably not many and just at that moment, he looked up from the zine and said, "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen." He said it in that way and you know it wasn't just an ordinary compliment. It makes you blush and feel warm all over. He makes sure that I get them regularly, but sometimes, they're just a little more colorful than normal.

Having a chronic illness is hard on everyone, especially for those who live in the house with you, which happens to be just him and I. He sees me at my worst. He takes it when I get scared and lash out by being either grumpy, or a tearful mess. He keeps up on all of my medications and knows my symptoms better than I do. But the thing he is the best at, is making me feel cherished.

When the Doctor told me that I had an ICD, an incurable chronic disease, I felt like he also handed me a blank coloring book. I could see the pictures of all the fun things, but they had no color...no meaning. My love, gave me a great big box of Crayola Crayons, the ones that have so many colors in it they have to make-up the names. He colors my life with his love and his sacrificial giving. And when I'm too sick to color the pictures, he gladly colors them for me. I am a lucky girl, indeed.

23 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dar... you have a great hubs.
I cant wait to meet him.
You are cherished.
Very much.
By all the people's lives you touch.
And you colour them all.
Even on the days when you dont think you have the strength to do so... you do, just by being *you*
I love you sweets.
Bx

11:29 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

Yes, he is a lovely man, Darlene. My own husband is a bit detached in this respect and I found it very hard to go through my own health scare. He was caring, of course, but just not on the same page. A while later, he admitted to me that he was simply afraid. I imagine that he will always be that way, and that's okay with me.

I'm so happy that your own love is able to help you cope with the pain of what you deal with daily. You've found an angel, indeed...

Kisses for you and your hubby! And that photo is gorgeous!

-love you-

12:05 AM  
Blogger Shaz said...

How wonderful he sounds im so happy that hes just as understanding and loving as you are.Its tough on all concerned but it makes it so much easier when your partner in life gets your struggle. Blessings to you and your gorgeous man.
shazz xoxo

1:10 AM  
Blogger gerry rosser said...

I found your blog via a comment you made on Simply Wait. I am a male significant other (spouse equivalent?). For years my compliments have been turned aside by my lady, who, doubtless, doesn't think she's beautiful, or wonderful, or the best thing that's ever happened to me. Being self-effacing to that degree has, over time, tended to diminish or eliminate some of the nice things I might want to say. I still tell her I'm the luckiest guy in the world, and she still doesn't believe it.

4:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

how happy i am for you that you have found such an incredible man to love incredible you.

the picture you posted was absolutely lovely...it framed what you wrote so well. i am so touched.

5:20 AM  
Blogger Left-handed Trees... said...

I love hearing about true love...it re-affirms what I know in my own life and relationship!

8:07 AM  
Blogger Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

What a beautiful man you have in your life. Lovely tribute & photo!

8:20 AM  
Blogger bb said...

aww - this is wonderful Darlene, truly wonderful, but you know this already ;-) You are blessed and you honour this in writing about him. And yet ANOTHER gorgeous photo to accompany. Can't wait to have a look through your flickr!

much love x x x

8:51 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

Aaawww, I loved reading that! It sounds like you're both lucky to have each other.

Love the photo!

9:16 AM  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

Beautiful!

9:17 AM  
Blogger red sun said...

i'm tearing up after reading this. such a beautiful, colorful, fulfilling relationship you must have with your husband. my husband and i are wonderful now, and i aspire to be that dearly in love 20 years later.

bless you both!

10:10 AM  
Anonymous ceanandjen said...

Haveing a beautiful companion to remind us of the beauty, hold our hand, and lift is up is so important. Lovely post!

11:26 AM  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

...*sigh*...

11:52 AM  
Blogger Turquoise CRO said...

I am also one of the LUCKY ones when it comes to the one LOVE of your life! The LOVE that seeees YOU thru the better or for worse! for sure! I am so GLAD you have a man like that, a husband that makes you feel like YOU are his wife! ((((Darlene & her Hubby))))(Hey Darlene! Our posts are somewhat alike! today, that little gal shakes her legs in the commercial and we both have colors!!! ) Thank GOD for a colorful life! XO

2:32 PM  
Anonymous your little one said...

That's my daddy! :) I hope to find a man just like him someday...well...maybe not just like him...that is weird.

2:45 PM  
Anonymous Teresa said...

He sounds like a wonderful man. Mine is like that too, full of compliments and love. The best part is I know my son will be the same from hearing his father be so kind and gentle too.

Let him keep coloring your world and tell him he is Awesome--to treat you this way. And give him a big smooch!!

xxxxooooo from me!
Teresa

2:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow, that is just one of the most wonderful tributes to a spouse i have read in a long time. thank you for sharing it. take care. poet

3:34 PM  
Blogger The Whole Self said...

the picture

the story

the husband

i heart everything about this post. you are one special woman, fo sho. xo

5:54 PM  
Blogger Goddess of Leonie said...

what a beautiful sharing babe...
thank you...
you got me thinking about my love
and all the beautiful things he does and just the way he is...

love
xoxoxo
leonie

8:20 PM  
Blogger Bohemian Girl said...

If Jay is right next to you when you read this, please reach over and give him a warm hug from his sis. If not...reserve one for later.

I hope he knows how much the family always lifts him up in praise when his name comes up in conversation. He is amazing. He is "man" personified. We love him because of who he is and we even love him more because he knows exactly how to love you...and care for you.

We are so grateful that he is in your life and in turn...a huge part of our lives. He is so special and has taught me many things that I carry with me on my journey.

love you Jay...

10:54 PM  
Blogger Alexandra G said...

I'd like to bottle your husband's essence and clone it! What a magnificent man/human being. After the trials and tribulations of this past year, I think my faith was a bit shaken up, but it is hearts like how you have described his and the obviously huge love that you two share that helps to restore my faith in the endurance of love. The truth is we do all deserve to love and be loved in such a way, and yours now is one of the stories I shall keep tucked in closeby me as I venture out back into the world and meet new men.

8:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gorgeous picture...gorgeous entry. Lucky both of you. XO

12:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How did I miss this wonderful post? Here I am backtracking looking for bead-y pictures and I find such a beautiful post that it makes me get all teary. My husband is a real keeper too and I believe they are few and far between.

You deserve every compliment he gives. Cherish them. (And start coloring!)

2:56 PM  

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