job description
"When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child."
~ Sophia Loren
"Maternal love: a miraculous substance which God multiplies as He divides it."
~ Victor Hugo
I've been a babysitter, a hostess at a restaurant, a cocktail waitress, a front desk manager of a major hotel, a student and then a teacher for years....but nothing has been more challenging for me than being a mother. Truly, other than living with Lupus, this maternal job has been the one thing in my life that takes up a good portion of my personal thought life. Even though my children are adults now and the thoughts regarding them have shifted, the job of motherhood is ever present. Mentally, I'm trying to find my way in this world, wanting to be the right kind of parent to my children, that faithful parent/friend combination. And I realize that this is more for me, than it is for them because I already know how to be their mother...I'm just not sure I understand the new job description.
posted by Darlene at
9:51 AM
11 Comments:
faithful parent/friend - a great combination, and when you hit the right note, it positively sings
I once read a quote that said having a child is like wearing your heart outside of your body for the rest of your life.
Our 3 adult children are now 36, 34 and 31... all married with children. I feel like it is always a dance... you are right for us the job description changes somewhat, but we are always mothers... always nurturers. They want their independence, the right to forge their own identities and so it is finding the ways to keep in step.
Hope that you are doing well.
The simple fact that you are thinking about this and trying to do it right means you will succeed.
Interesting how our jobs in life change every day. Just when I think I have this motherhood thing down, POOF! my kids are in a different stage and I'm once again clueless.
You are doing a wonderful job of sharing love with all of us.
This is the epitomy of the unknown.
I struggle with this daily and I don't think there is a right or wrong because its always learning and its always done with Love.
No one can prepare you for it, that's for sure.
It is a question that we parents all struggle with, if we are true to ourselves and our children.
The most difficult thing for me is to not meddle/solve problems/give suggestions/try to shelter them from mistakes, etc.
The fact that we do consider this means we truly care for our children and our parental position. Good luck!
I am sure you wouldn't want it any other way.
I hope the kids are doing well.
Parenting my young adult children is one of the greatest joys of my life. My children are my best friends, and they are the loves of my life.
You are such a gentle soul, I know you will find the way.
Yeah! It is tricky ground! When are they finally adults. When do you just nod and smile. When is it okay. . . Well, you get my drift. Frankly when they hit 40, I figure I'm just there in the audience of their lives smiling and leaning over to my seat mate and saying quietly with pride, that's our child. Then I continue clapping along with everyone else!
These transitions in role can be very challenging. Love & peace, JP/deb
you are just gorgeous!
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