Monday, March 19, 2007


I had a really deep conversation the other day and the subject matter has been lingering around in my mind and heart.....

If someone is serious about changing bad behaviors, they really can.

Don't grow old with the regret of not forgiving someone.

We could probably go on for days and days discussing these topics, but I'm not going to write a book today. I'm just going to whittle down to the heart of the matter.

~*~ If I literally made a hole in myself for every mistake that I've made, I would look like a piece of Swiss cheese. I've done a lot of changing over the years and I work very hard at trying not to judge others and not allowing others to judge me. This has turned all of those holes into a cleaver way of letting people see into the real me, being more transparent and that gives new meaning to all of those holes now.

~*~ Unforgiveness only hurts us. There were times when I wished my grudge holding would hurt the other person, but it never did. They went on with their lives and I remained pissed off. That is just plain stupid and a waste of my time. Set yourself free by forgiving, living out loud is a much better use of our time.

The blossoms in these pictures were so beautiful, I didn't even notice the brand new growth until I cropped the picture.

Let's not make that mistake with people...look past the pretty Sunday clothes and recognize the new growth. If you happen to be a big, walking hunk of Swiss cheese, don't hide it with a pious overcoat. And...if you need to forgive someone...just ask for help and then, do it.


Blogger Shaz said...

How true, I have preached this to family and friends for many years.
Your right the discussion could go on forever.

Forgiveness is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.

Love to you my wise wonderful and honest friend.


3:29 AM  
Blogger Constance said...

Love the blooms! We have our Redbuds in full bloom down here in our own yard. The Redbud is the State tree of Texas!
Hugs from the Lone Star State,

4:45 AM  
Blogger Jack K. said...

Amen, Darlene, amen.

Forgiveness is one of the most selfish, yet selfless acts we can accomplish. For when we cleanse ourselves of the anger we feel toward another we are releasing the hold we let them have on us.

Allowing them to live their lives they way they wish is the best gift we can give them. However, as you mentioned, we do not have to take abuse from anyone.

What you get is what you give.

Rejoice in the opportunities that your choices present to you.

Thank you for enriching my life. In spite of the difficulties you have endured there is joy to be found. One of the greatest one's is Mark's speedy recovery. Another is your maintaining your love for the world.

No matter how much you might want to hide it, it does shine through. We are all the better for it. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Now get back to work and take some more wonderful photos. I realize it is too much to expect a chocolate Kahlua cake. tee hee

4:53 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

"They went on with their lives and I remained pissed off."

The way one friend of mine puts this is "You're letting them take up space in your head, but they aren't paying rent." Wonderful points, Darlene, and lovely photos.

6:12 AM  
Blogger Star said...

A lesson best learned early in life so you can live a life of freedom from grudge-holding, but it's never too late to learn the lesson.

Thanks for sharing it in your own, unique and memorable way :-)

Beautiful lilacs!

6:46 AM  
Blogger Georgia said...

thank you!! :)


7:17 AM  
Blogger LEstes65 said...

Wow! Good good stuff, that. Something I could handle reading every day. I may have to print this one out for my office wall. You're awesome, my little swiss cheese!

8:01 AM  
Blogger daisies said...

so true! such beautiful photos of spring, thanks for sharing :) (is snowing here today so the flowers really lifted my spirits)

9:47 AM  
Blogger Vanessa said...

not seeing the wood for the trees. yes, it happens all to often.
thank you for this post and its wise lessons. I need to implement this, I really do :)

10:09 AM  
Anonymous Brian said...


Thanks for this great post. :)

10:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very wise post today and I love your photos...pure beauty in those blossoms.

thanks for the sharing today...

dd/s - full of holes...

11:44 AM  
Blogger Gracey said...

Thanks for the reminder. Sometimes we all need to hear it again and again!

1:48 PM  
Blogger Wanda said...

Words of wisdom from your heart...thank you Darlene. I've been forgiven much, and find that giving forgiveness (though always underserved) cleanses the soul, and frees me to live every day without the ball and chain of unforgiveness dragging behind me. Thanks for the reminder, love.

2:52 PM  
Blogger chel said...

As always thanks for the encouragement and inspiration. You warm my heart.

3:59 PM  
Blogger bee said...

oh, mama, how i needed to hear this today. i've been thinking about my dad, and how it's just useless to be angry with him, considering he has no idea...and how i should send out compassion to him and everyone else that i'm upset with. you are such a believing mirror for me, sweetie. thank you for this message of reassurance, and i absolutely love those delectable photos. how i wish i was in cali, with you....

5:27 PM  
Blogger ~Bek~ said...

SO SO SO true.
And as Shaz says ... it is not a gift for those you want to forgive, well it is, but is so much more a gift to yourself.

I have found a deeper level of forgiveness with my Mother... each pregnancy seems to do that for me.

We peel the layers of the onion... and our frienship/relationship changes and evolves.

I thank God that I have this ability.

That it is so important to me to be grateful instead of bitter.

Life is too short and beautiful.

(hugs) and love to you babes.

7:39 PM  
Blogger Amber said...

Very wise and true. Sometimes a life changing event can really bring the real stuff home, huh? Now if only others can listen without having to go through the hard stuff...

I will.


8:36 AM  

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