Friday, January 05, 2007

"Emergency Surgery"


Tonight's
Moon
As
I
Needed
To
Breathe
in
Hope

Today at 3:15 p.m. Mark went into emergency surgery. The surgical wound nurse entered Marks room to switch out his bandages and dressing. She removed the long stretch of tape and gasped, saying, "Get Dr. L right away!" and she ran out of the room. Both my husband and Mark looked to see what the issue was and Marks intestines were pushing and bulging their way through his incision. That was the first time Mark had seen the evidence of his accident and the damage to his body. He immediately broke out in hives, he was frightened and silent.

Dr. L rushed into Mark's room and began giving orders to prepare Mark for immediate surgery. I was home and got my husbands call to come now, so that I could see Mark before he went in. I missed him by just a couple of minutes. One by one, family members began to show up in the surgery waiting room. It would be 2 hours or more, neither of his 2 prior surgeries needed that much time. My mind was racing because it all happened so fast, questions that now popped into our heads were going unanswered. Scared and confused, we couldn't help but think the worst and I physically shook my head to rid it of the unspeakable.

Everyone began to strike up conversations, to me it was all nonsense and I kept closing my eyes, writing my prayers with white chalk on a blackboard in my head. I wanted to scream into a pillow, I wanted to cry, I wanted to pace. I was in pain and it tried to distract me with spazzing, surging and sharp stabs. I became angry that my body wouldn't even let up on me now. Someone said that the young man who was driving and caused the accident, was now out of the hospital, got arrested and immediately released and was doing fine. Those words hurt my head as I comprehended what I was hearing. "Out??? Not one day in jail? Why?" In California, this is a misdemeanor, not a felony.

I am so so angry at him, but right now I can't deal with this, my son is in danger and having another surgery, his 3rd. His 3rd? He is such a good boy and I don't understand. 2 & 1/2 hours later, the surgeon appeared in the doorway. Marks entire abdominal muscles are in bad shape, they are puddy and multiple hernia's needed mending. His most severe area's were getting twisted and pinched, he was dehydrated from the high fever he has maintained for days and this was caused by the intestine filling up with gas and bacteria being able to penetrate the thin walls. The surgeon reinforced his front muscle wall, stitched him up the entire time and explained to us that she only sees this kind of injury once every 2 years or so. Mark was indeed cut in half and only held together by skin. He should have died and he didn't.

I was in a wheelchair, needing to go home and wanting to see him, the staff made an exception and let me into the recovery room. He was already awake. I was wheeled up to the side of his bed and he reached out to me. He saw the wheelchair and he knows that I only use it when I'm bad. Tears filled his eyes and he said, "I love you mom"
"I love you too honey, it's all over now, it's all over, no more surgeries Marky, you're done."

The nurse said, "Mame, you need to leave now, his blood pressure is high and we don't want him talking." I reluctantly let go of his hand and he squeezed the tip of my finger, closed his eyes and a tear ran down the side of his face. The chair turned away, but I did not. "Rest honey, I'll be back tomorrow. Sleep......." The big doors opened and I had to say the rest to him inside my heart.....Angels on your pillow Marky, angels on your pillow.

110 Comments:

Blogger Amy said...

My heart is breaking for you and your family. The image of you in a wheelchair sharing sweet words with your baby was incredibly touching, Darlene.

Saying prayers for all every day, and sending strength and courage to Mark...

I love you all.
xoxo

10:04 PM  
Blogger Alexandra G said...

I am so sorry you are having to go through this Darlene. I'm so angry right along with you that the driver isn't in jail but right now I shall put all my prayers tonight as I go to sleep on your son's healing and recovery, and that the brightest light possible shine down on your family. Your son is remarkable, and so are you. You are two wonderful treasures who are very lucky to have each other, and I just want you to know that I am continuing to hold you both so often in my thoughts and prayers. I have been in the habit since i was little of saying a good night prayer but its been really out of habit in recent years. As I go to sleep now I say a conscious, focused prayer for you all and know that it joins many others who are with you at this time. I hope that tomorrow he -and you- are feeling better, that the new dawn brings new healing, possibilities, and continued faith and hope. xo

10:07 PM  
Blogger Laini said...

Oh Darlene, I am so sorry. I'm always so hopeful of hearing good news when I come here. I just can't fathom the extent of Mark's injuries. I dont' really pray but I feel like I am praying over this, at least fervently hoping and wishing, that the doctors can heal him, that he can knit back together, whole and strong. I feel your fury about the driver -- how can he not be in jail??? Why isn't HE the one with Mark's injuries? I guess it helps no one to think dark thoughts about him -- more important to stay focused on Mark, on hope, and on your own health. Be well. Blessings.

10:25 PM  
Blogger Georgia said...

I don't have words to describe what i am feeling for you. My heart hurts for your whole family. Thinking of Mark and all that he must endure is almost too much... Then thinking of you and knowing that you are under such stress and pressure and what it is doing to you. I am doubling up on the prayers sweetie. All my love and healling thoughts I send out to you.

xoxo
Georgia

10:28 PM  
Blogger Amber said...

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry he had to go through that today!! But now I hope and pray that he will heal...My heart just goes out to hm so much. Poor guy! And to you, you sweet mommy. I can only imagine how helpless and angry you feel! My whole family is praying for him, and thinking of him.

All of my love and hope to you and for you all, Darlene. All of it!

:)

10:33 PM  
Blogger dd said...

Oh, damn!!! I am sorry to read of what Mark, you and family went through today. What strength he has.

I will continue praying.

Blessings to you all, sandy

10:43 PM  
Blogger Dotee said...

Oh Darlene, my heart was in my throat when I saw the words 'Emergency Surgery'. As soon as I got home from work I checked your blog.

Am always keen to read the latest update and hear how you, Mark , and the rest of your family are travelling. The steps that are being made.

Every time I come here I am overwhelmed by admiration for your bravery. And for Mark's bravery. In the face of such terror and ill health.

Reading this post today made me see clearly for the first time. Really see how amazing it is that Mark has survived. And is fighting to stay alive.

The image of you in a wheelchair comforting Mark is such a touching and loving one. Even in your own pain you continue to reach out.

I know your strength is transmitting to him. And is helping him overcome each crisis.

Every night , and every morning I think of you and Mark and send much love and powerful healing thoughts.

I love you , and feel that through this blog I have gotten to know many different parts of you.

You are a shining light to us all.

Much love

Dotee xoxo

10:46 PM  
Anonymous amy said...

i'm so sorry that your family had to go through another extremely difficult day. i hope this surgery, as stressful as it was, yields some positive results for Mark in the days that follow.

please take care of yourself. i hope you can find a way to quiet some the of the painful thoughts racing through your mind and rest as best you can.

amy

11:17 PM  
Blogger Julie H said...

Oh Darlene, I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face, and an ache in my heart - no Mum should ever, ever have to go through this.

All I can do is hold my hand and heart out across the globe and join you in prayer.

Oh Lord, bless Darlene and her Mark, heal them both .. fill them with your peace .. thank you for bring them all this far...

11:33 PM  
Anonymous mo said...

Oh I am so so sorry that this had to happen. It seems like such a daunting setback but if there is one thing I have gleaned from my daily visits here, it is that you and your son (and your family) have strength far beyond what would be normal levels. You are wise and sweet and full of so much love and I know that has healing power. I am thinking of you all throughout the day and marveling. Peace to you. There was a mention of a p.o. box- I know I would love to send something if that happens.

11:33 PM  
Blogger Shaz said...

My Prayers were silent then aloud as tears stream down my cheeks at how helpless I feel D, Mark has your determination and courage sweet. I cant believe this is still happening to this extreme. My heart is breaking for your pain both physical and emotional.

Anger at the other young man is normal and your handling it so well, dont let this or him bring you down you have enough stress to deal with, it will only make you worse and I pray you start to feel better baby, I wish I could come and hold you up.
Love and Hugs and more and more Prayers Brave friend xxx

11:51 PM  
Blogger Goddess of Leonie said...

sweet one, i'm sending you love and healing...

just here for you.

across the globe, here for you.

11:58 PM  
Blogger luzie said...

I couldn't help but cry at the end of reading about Mark's emergency surgery.. I am so sorry to hear about that, and I'm so bewildered that the driver got away with compared to what you're going through. Makes me angry, really angry.

You're all in my thoughts and prayers even more.. love to you.

12:09 AM  
Anonymous Suzie Q said...

Oh Darlene, I am so sorry to read this. I came straight here after reading your mail, expecting celebrations but found this..
My heart goes out to you all and especially to Mark. Don't think about the other stuff just now (let karma do that for you), just concentrate on getting your own strength back.
Praying for more miracles, and for renewed strength & courage for Mark and the whole family. Special love to your precious daughter, who must be finding this all very difficult to cope with from a distance. I hope her first day in her new job went well, and that she will be able to get back home to be with you all again before too long.
Hang on in there sweetheart. Angels surround you all.
Huge Hugs, Suze xXx

12:40 AM  
Blogger Bird said...

the christmas candle i lit for you and mark is about the last thing left in my home from christmas - all the rest is packed and put away. but i keep this candle out for you and yours.

strength to you and to mark, and to your family.

12:42 AM  
Blogger gena said...

Oh Lord how much more can you take, I am so sorry to hear this,if the power of prayer has anything to do with Marks recovery, then be sure he will be on the mend soon,I think half the blogging world is praying for you all! And the driver? I would feel as you do, but he has himself to live with, if he has a concience at all, his will be a hell like existence, knowing he is responsible for doing this.I ask the cosmos, my Angels, The holy spirit and everyone else! to let Mark turn a corner very soon, and that he starts to feel better real soon.xxx

12:50 AM  
Blogger paris parfait said...

Your post made me weep - I'm so terribly sorry you, Mark and all your family are having to suffer like this. I pray this surgery has resolved many issues and Mark's condition will now improve - and yours!

1:47 AM  
Blogger giggles said...

Darlene, we have to wonder how we can all fall so in love with your family. Needing to know that you are all okay, only to find ourselves sitting at the screen with an ache in our hearts, knots in out stomachs and tear stained faces. I am sad beyond words for you, sad as though you were my dearest old friend with a sick child. There isn’t one ounce of energy that can be afforded towards the driver….there will be loads of time for that later. After Mark is fully recovered, together you can let your anger spill like a river flooding cities. For now….only prayers, love, miracles of healing and strength, peace for your family, amongst the constant concern. Your poor baby, how much he loves all of you…tonight I pray that he concentrates all his energy on healing, instead of worrying. My child is such a worrier like Mark, and breaks out when she feels overwhelmed or stressed. Somehow she always feels she must take on the weight of the world….Is Mark like that too? Oh how I wish I could miraculously unburden your family from this pain. Angela so beautiful and vulnerable too. I can see the pain in her eyes, witnessing so much devastation, being forced to make decisions she should never have had to make in the first place. May the angels hold tight to your family, binding your love and our love together to repair this loving young man! I am pleading with our higher power, to let this child turn a corner to safety and healing….tonight!!! Right now!!!

Love Sherrie

1:55 AM  
Blogger Michelle O'Neil said...

Darlene,

You are a good mommy. I am so sorry for all you, Mark and everyone who loves him is going through.

I pray for every kind of strength to infuse you as we continue to hold all of you in love and light.

2:14 AM  
Blogger The Mad Hatter said...

Dearest Darlene my heart was in my mouth reading what you all had to go through last night, it was as if I wrote it, its mirror's my story ... but my mum was rushed into emergency surgery.

Im so so sorry you have to go through this, really I am. No one should have to experience such pain, and have to watch their loved ones in this situation, its just damn cruel. Im sorry!

I understand your anger at *this* driver being let out, I sometimes dont understand what this world is coming too, they lock up people for the mildest of things but when it comes to something like this, their just given a slap across the wrists ... it makes me sick!

Im sending so many warm hugs to you and your family, your forever in my thoughts and prayers
XxXxXxX

3:00 AM  
Blogger angela said...

Oh, Darlene, such shocking news today.
I wish I could do more but, believe me, I'm thinking about you all the time.
You all have such strngth.
Big hugs
Angela

3:12 AM  
Blogger Linda said...

Praying that this 3rd surgery is actually CORRECTIVE surgery and that it sets Mark back on his road to recovery.
Sending only good thoughts.

3:30 AM  
Anonymous Annie Morris said...

I can no longer stay silent. I am sitting here praying for Mark as I type. Surrounding him with prayers of healing, concentrated on his stomach and back. For the Lord to surround him and you with the softest peace and healing.

Keep the faith, and well, dang that Lupus! My prayers are with you and your precious baby. Also with your husband, a real rock, and your other baby, who must be such a comfort to you.

Peace be with you, and your spirit. Rest up and know that God's arms are around you, as would be ours if we were there......

3:41 AM  
Blogger Fern said...

I am so sorry. I am going to keep praying that Mark gets better. I wish there was more I could do to help.

3:59 AM  
Anonymous Loretta said...

OMG, Darlene, I am so sorry for all that Mark and your family are going through. The pain and suffering is unbelievable. I keep thinking that God is saving Mark for something very special, to put him through all this trauma.

Funny how we think that missing holidays and celebrations will be important until we are in the midst of an emergency and we realize how little it all means.

My prayers continue with you as always.

4:07 AM  
Blogger Karen Travels said...

I will be thinking positive thoughts about ya'll all day today.

Be strong, Mark.

Big hugs,

Karen

4:28 AM  
Anonymous Brian said...

"Heartsong"

Voiceless prayers ascend to heaven
One, then ten, then ten thousand
Thoughts of healing
Thoughts of despair
Thoughts of vengeance
A sound, a gentle beating
The mother's heart
The Father's love
For we are fragile in our souls
Needing more than hope
Forgiveness comes from deep within
The heartsong fills the skies

4:58 AM  
Blogger Jerri said...

May angels surround you all. May the flutter of their wings kiss your cheeks and ease the pain in your hearts and bodies. May the Light of Love enfold and comfort you.

Dearest Darlene, all I can do is pray. I, too, will write my prayers in white chalk on a blackboard—a blackboard as large as the sky.

Blessings.

5:12 AM  
Anonymous Dee said...

Oh, Darlene, I'm soooooo very sorry for what Mark and your family continues to endure, yet simultaneously we must say a prayer of thanksgiving to our good Heavenly Father that Mark is strong enough to be here and can continue to endure.

Keeping the prayers going for all of you, for Mark, for you and your Lupus, for Mark's Dad who is giving his all, for Angela and just every single one of you.

Angels on the pillow of each of you.

Ciao,
Dee

5:16 AM  
Blogger maggiegracecreates said...

Mark, you, and your family are being prayed for by so many and I have added you all to the prayer list for my teeange group at church.

I have no other words.

5:28 AM  
Blogger britt said...

oh darlene i just pray that you too can do what you can to take care of yourself during this time. it sounds like the lupus has gotten pretty bad. you poor thing. but your son is being so brave...and so are you. we continue our loving prayers your way.

5:30 AM  
Blogger magicaldamselfly said...

Dearest Darlene it breaks my heart to think that you have to go through all this but to have to do it with a Lupus flare is all the more heart breaking. I am adding you to my intercessory prayers as well as asking my prayer circle to add you as well.
Angels are on Mark's pillow and all around him. Their singing calming healing songs to him as Jesus holds his tender body.
Heavenly Father I ask that you lay your healing, loving hands upon Darlene and absorb her lupus and replace it with healing strength as you stand beside her on this healing journey she is traveling. I also ask that you lay your hands on Mark and heal his body from the inside out and that you hold him tenderly while he is healing, letting him absorb your healing light and strength. Show this family the miracle of your healing Lord.
In Jesus name, in Jesus name, in Jesus name.

xoxoxo,
Sheila

5:35 AM  
Blogger Shari said...

It is said a journey starts with one step. There may be a step backwards, but the journey called Life still lies before you.

Prayers are sent from me and the rest of the world.

Take care of yourself.

5:46 AM  
Blogger Sam said...

I have been checking on your blog the past couple weeks, but have not commented, not knowing what to say. I thank you for sharing your updates. There are so many pulling for you and Mark.

Last night I woke up, not sure the time. I couldn't fall back asleep and had this sudden urge to say may prayers. So I went through my usual routine and then Mark's name popped into my head, your name popped into my head and I knew that those were the prayers I needed to give. So I prayed hard, very hard for both of you.

Love,
Samantha

6:03 AM  
Blogger Jenny Rough said...

Darlene, I'm so sorry Mark had to have a 3rd surgery. I continue to pray for his recovery and yours.

6:06 AM  
Blogger Melanie said...

Darlene,
I'm sorry I can only read your blog every day or so its just so painful. My heart hurts just to read you words, with tears running down my face. It's really quite amazing how much strengh people have when coping with such pain. My heart and prayers go out to all of you I can't image the pain you are going through.

6:12 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

Darlene, I'm so sorry to read that Mark had to go through another surgery. It isn't fair. Sending much love, prayer, and good thoughts to both Mark and to you and the rest of your family~~~~~ {{{{{Darlene}}}}}

6:21 AM  
Anonymous Kim in IN said...

Crying.....crying......
love,
Kim

6:21 AM  
Blogger Jonna Barnett said...

You all are in my thoughts throughout my day. Your story has really touched my soul.

6:25 AM  
Blogger Chulita said...

Oh Darlene, my heart aches for you and for Mark and for the rest of you family. Last night I forgot to put out the candle and when I saw it this morning I thought "Good, it burned all night for him." I am sending you all mnay prayers and asking God to be by your sides and help you all through this and sustain you. Much love to you all.

6:44 AM  
Blogger StephieAnne said...

We are still praying (and will continue!) for Mark, and you, and your entire family. Your courage is amazing - I will be specifically praying for major leaps of healing to happen for both of you in the days ahead.

6:46 AM  
Blogger Sauntering Soul said...

Darlene,

I simply cannot fathom what you and your family are going through, not only with Mark but also knowing about the driver. It's hard to understand how life can be this unfair and just downright cruel.

Continuing to pray for you all,
Beverly

6:48 AM  
Blogger Pink Granite said...

Darlene, we remain in awe of your wonderful son's strength and endurance. So inspired by the power of your whole family. Grateful for the skilled care Mark continues to receive. As for the driver --- another day, another time. We continue to hold you, Mark and your whole family in our thoughts. - Lee

7:11 AM  
Blogger ruby said...

darlene, it's so hard to know what to say at a time like this. i keep hoping and praying that you will wake up from this nightmare. i am continuing to hold you, mark, and your family in my heart and prayers.
xoxo

7:12 AM  
Blogger Bright Phoenix said...

I know its hard, but try to focus on the miracle - "he should have died but he didn't". That means Mark's life has a great destiny. He will recover from this. Keep the faith, Darlene. I'll keep praying for you all.

7:12 AM  
Blogger Star said...

I'm so sorry that Mark had to endure yet another surgery, but I refuse to dwell in the darkness.

I am thankful that the wound nurse found this when she did; if it had not been discovered until later there may have been worse circumstances and surely the doctor and surgical team would not have been as readily summoned for the necessary surgery.

I hate to picture you under so much stress that it is physically painful from the lupus and requires a wheelchair, BUT I am grateful that you were able to be there with Mark, that you were able to see him and touch him and that he was able to see you and know you were near. Medicine is a wonderful thing, but love has healing power that medicine cannot supply--you are love; you are a healing presence for Mark.

I have allowed myself to be distracted by the busy-ness of the day, but I have just now lit my candle for Mark (and for all of you). The flame is steady, as are my prayers for you. The fragrance is of sweet berries that remind me of your sweet picture and story of summer gardening together as a family.

Holding you close in my heart and expecting the miracles to multiply.

Star

7:29 AM  
Blogger bronxbt said...

well again, it's a good thing my keyboard is splash proof and my office has a door.

tears flowed freely for your son, you and your family.

i know the horror. i know the pain. i know the feelings of uncertainty when you're at the mercy of doctors and nurses and surgeons...

oh sweetheart, my love flows freely for all of you to capture and use to wrap you all up in security and strength.

i don't always have enough for myself, but i openly offer all i can to you and yours.

my best,
B

7:35 AM  
Blogger hepmomto3 said...

(((Darlene and Mark))) Sharing in your anger today, but trying to refocus that anger on increased prayers for Mark and you. Praying for strength, healing, miracles...

xxoo

7:36 AM  
Anonymous Teresa Sheeley said...

Sweet angel I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I always pray before I read your posts each morning that something wonderfully good happened the day before and that Mark is beginning to heal. My heart aches for you, I can literally feel the pain as I read what you wrote.

My prayers continue.

I love you much.

xoxoxo
Teresa

7:37 AM  
Blogger PaintingChef said...

My heart and my prayers are going out to you and your family. May your love, faith, strength and courage allow you to lean on each other and make it through the day. I pray so fervently for Mark and his recovery. What a beautiful heart he has. Love to you all.

7:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have no words. Only prayers for healing and the reoccurring thought that the human body is capable of miraculous things.
LD in PDX

7:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Continuing to check on you and pray for Mark.

Be strong.

Nancy from Rochester

8:00 AM  
Blogger Regina Clare Jane said...

I am so sorry, Darlene... it's heartbreaking what you are going through, really. Please know that you are loved and prayers are all around you and Mark...

8:14 AM  
Blogger deirdre said...

Oh Darlene, I hope you're getting some rest today. My prayers are with you.

8:37 AM  
Blogger Trish Ryan said...

Oh honey, that sounds terrifying. I'm so sorry. Praise God for Mark's awesome doctors, and for your prayers, written in your mind. They are powerful - don't let circumstances tell you different.

As I've been praying for you and Mark, the same passage keeps coming up:

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."

I'm praying that for you even more today - may you abound in hope, trusting that God is with you and Mark, healing you and bringing your family the abundant life he promises.
Bless you, my friend -
much love,
Trish

8:53 AM  
Anonymous ceanandjen said...

I do believe that we were all drawn to that moon last night. I also photographed it. It rained hard here all day yesterday, but cleared for us to see that big bright beautiful moon. It is raining again this morning. It was a clearing in which to see the light.

And that light is what I wish for Mark. I hope and pray that the road from here forward leads him ever closer to the brigth light of complete recovery on the other side. Mark is supposed to be here, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind about that. He has overcome so much. Though the road will be a long and rough one, the road is there, ever present and waiting to be utilized on Mark's path to recovery.

I agree with everyone else. Do not waste on ounce of your energy on the driver of that car. There is plenty of time for that later. It will not positively change anything right now; it will only serve to make you even more angry, which you do not need right now. Your well being needs to be cared for. Focus on Mark and on you.

I am continuing to send prayers and love....and envisioning that light.

Love to you,
Jen
xoxoxoxo

9:09 AM  
Anonymous mindy said...

H H U U GG SS
H H U U G G S S
H H U U G S
HHHHH U U G GG S
H H U U G G S
H H U U G G S S
H H U U GG SS

only hope darlene...xoxo

9:15 AM  
Blogger Sara said...

Hi Darlene. I hope this 3rd lot of surgery will be a turning point for Mark. He is obviously a strong man. He is surrounded by love. He has all those things on his side. Look after yourself. Lots of love and blessings to you all.

9:49 AM  
Anonymous Schmoopy said...

I am here with tears and pain for you. I think we all want to take as much as we can from you and mark so you won't have to take it all.

I continue to hold you both warmly.

9:52 AM  
Blogger Marsha said...

I will continue to pray for your son, your well-being and your family as well as the caregiver's who have the tremendous responsiblity in determining all the right medical paths to take for Mark to once again be restored to complete health.

Thank you for sharing your raw emotions with the blogger world - may you know that many knees are bowed on your family's behalf.

9:57 AM  
Blogger Jack K. said...

Angels on all of your pillows.

10:00 AM  
Blogger amy said...

As I read your latest post this song came to mind.
He wrote it for his kiddos while out on tour.

Angels Around Your Bed by Bob Bennett

Oh, tonight I'm so far away from you
How I wish I could suddenly be there
To tell you "I love you"
Like a hundred times before
To hold you and to stroke your hair

But I'm in another time zone altogether
Where sleep is not easily found
And a split-second prayer escapes into the air
And I pray as you lay your body down...

There'll be angels around your bed, little darlin'
Angels around your bed
You'll be safe from harm at the dying of the day
With angels around your bed

Oh, absence makes my heart grow fonder
When you're out of sight, I'm out of my mind
If you could see everything around you, I wonder
Would you be surprised to find...

There are angels around your bed, little darlin'?
Angels around your bed
Laughing and singing, joyful as you're sleeping
Angels around your bed

Angels around your bed, little darlin'
Angels around your bed
Surely the Lord can spare a few extra
Angels around your bed

My heart is heavy for you today. I will pray that Mark can release any guilt he might feel for his inconveniencing anyone, so his body can heal. Thank God they found out what was going on.

10:12 AM  
Blogger Teri said...

Your strength and devotion are so incredible, Darlene. I wish there was something more I could do for your family besides being in the cheering section.

You got through another VERY VERY hard day. Big hugs.
xoxo

10:14 AM  
Blogger JanePoe said...

Dear Darlene,
Oh sweetie, I just wish this nightmare would end for Mark and you and the rest of the family. Thank goodness the surgeon got in there and did what needed to be done ... I pray for Mark as he is going through this ordeal ... I pray for him momma going through it as well, while dealing with her own health issues. There are not sufficient words to address the pain your family is going through. Nor are their sufficient words to express the sadness we're feeling as we fill our hearts with prayer and love, sending them on their way to you.

Much love to all of you, many healing prayers, and many prayers for strength, wisdom and skill for Mark's medical team.

Love,
Deb

11:30 AM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

I´m so sorry about all of this. I hope mark is doing better now. I´ll keep on praying and sending much love and strength to you all.

xo Sophie

11:37 AM  
Anonymous Claire NZ said...

Angels on the pillows of all your family Darlene. With such an incredibly difficult rollercoaster of emotions and stress, you all need and have angels.

11:41 AM  
Blogger Jemima said...

Oh my! Absolutely horrendous. Please take care of yourself. As well as you can. I'm sending hugs, I just hope they're strong enough to get you through a little bit safer, Jxxx

11:41 AM  
Blogger Libbys Blog said...

In all honesty I have no concept at what you are all suffering, the stresses, the strains, the worries.
I have gaily been writing here, trying to offer you and your family some support!
All I can say is I believe that Mark survived for a reason.
I am not a religious person, but I do believe there are greater powers than us, and we have to achieve certain things before they are ready for us!
It is not Marks time!

xxxx

11:57 AM  
Blogger Sheila said...

It has now been some hours since Mark's last surgery and I hope and pray he is improving.
I am in awe of your strength and bravery..all of you..!
All though we read of your ordeal, and we are told of Mark's injuries, I really think very few of us comprehend the trauma he has suffered. We cannot imagine what he, and you have suffered.We would find it difficult to 'Walk in your Shoes', as you have.
As for the driver...any negative energy expended toward him for what happened would be energy wasted. Energy that could go toward Mark in a positive way, and that is what I will try to do.
Angels on all your pillows...

11:58 AM  
Blogger Turquoise CRO said...

O! Darlene! I HOPE and Pray for YOU and MARK and JAY and ANGELA every day and night, I am so sorry you are going through this and being sick yourself. No, don't worry about the other boy at this time, I see now why they have MADD(Mothers against Drunk Driving)HOPE this surgery gets his fever down and back on the mend! In these times I always turn to my Bible and Psalm:91 jumped out at me, "HE shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust" also Psalm 91:11 FOR HE shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.... I LOVE you all! xo, Cinda

12:09 PM  
Anonymous V-Grrrl said...

Angels on your pillow, Darlene.

12:13 PM  
Blogger bb said...

That was absolutely horrendous and something none of you should ever have had to go through. I hope there are angels on all of your pillows tonight, sweet Darlene.

love you x x x

12:49 PM  
Anonymous nel said...

Mark and your family have been in my prayers and will continue to be. My heart aches for you as I read this. Take courage, God bless. Love and prayers, Nel

1:05 PM  
Blogger gerry rosser said...

Don't let your heart be clouded with anger, it will just sap your strength, in my opinion.
My thoughts remain with you.

1:59 PM  
Blogger me-nikk said...

hi there. so, I'm another one of these people who have been gripped by my seat involved with what is happening in you and your family's life. my heart goes out to you in a deep, deep serious way. I would love to sit here and tell and give you more... or all of me if I could, but more importantly...I need to share something with you IMMEDIATELY that may just give you hope, inspiration and may just make everything "ok" for you. You see, recently I was introduced to this movie entitles "The Secret," and I desperately feel that you, Mark and your family MUST see this. You can see a little about it here http://www.thesecret.tv/. This movie has changed MANY lives including my husbands and my own. I STRONGLY encourage you to find this, and will be more than willing to send you a copy if you like. Please e-mail me if you are at all interested. [me@me-nikk.com]
Sending you love, encouragement and complete strength and support.

2:09 PM  
Anonymous Shelly said...

I am so upset the driver is fine and nothing will happen to him. He needs to come see Mark to show him what he did to him. Let him see how Mark has to struggle and to show him the wounds he caused.

Prayers for healing, strength, comfort and courage.

Shelly
inspirationsfromtheheart.typepad.com/rainbows

Ps. My Sean wants to let Mark know it is okay. He has had 16 surgeries and he want Mark to know he will get through it, but to take it easy to let things heal. Sean also says he is praying for Mark, which he then dropped to his knees and said a prayer. Miracles happen when Sean prays for you!

2:15 PM  
Blogger BJ said...

Darlene-I feel so sad for you all! You are going through such a terrible ordeal. I really think with this surgery in place, Mark's recovery is going to start to go uphill. I will keep you all in my prayers. I can't get you/your family out of my mind. God bless you all and "angels on your pillows" tonight.

2:38 PM  
Blogger LEstes65 said...

Oh I wish I could come take some of this off your family's collective shoulders.

All my love and prayers are going out to you. I am asking God to surround Mark in his Holy Spirit - just cover him and minister to him in all the tiny and huge ways he may need at any given second. Come to think of it, I will pray that for your whole family.

Love you.

2:48 PM  
Blogger bee said...

darlene...i'm so sorry about this surgery! i cannot tell you how much love i am sending your way, and mark's...i am praying, my love. we are all praying.

(HUGS)

2:49 PM  
Blogger ~Bek~ said...

Dar... I am crying,this is so hard for you... I can only but imagine.
Know that I am with you 100% in thought and prayer and spirit.

Mark will get through this...he's a toughie!

((hugs)) and so much love to you angel.
Bx

3:28 PM  
Blogger Vanessa said...

Because I was travelling with my family yesterday, I didn't get to drop in here and I really missed knowing how things were going.
And now I log on and see the update and feel so overcome with frustration for you Darlene... These should be words of encouragement -and, believe me, the feelings behind them are- but, damn it, it's hard not to feel the frustration too.
I am sending Mark all my strength and mentally, emotionally, genuinely willing his insides to knit back together speedily and safely. He is holding up so well through these crushingly difficult trials.
And you, sweet you... I'm sending you love and fortitude and crossing my fingers that your lupus flare subsides and your body can gain some pain relief.
I wish, I wish, I wish I could take some of the weight off you shoulders, my friend.
Vanessa

4:13 PM  
Blogger Toni said...

Tears, Tears and more tears.

I am so sorry Darlene. Sending more positives thoughts and prayers to you, Mark and the rest fo your family.

Love to all,
Toni

4:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am lighting a candle tonight, meditating, and sending love and prayers for a miracle to Mark and to you tonight. Please get some rest, we will keep up the prayers and positive thoughts while you sleep. Love, L

6:49 PM  
Blogger Brown eyed girl said...

OH MY GOSH AGAIN! My heart breaks everytime... How is it that he was cut in half, and skin kept him together? As much as this is just sick that this has happened to him-WHAT A MIRACLE! I wish with all my thoughts, prayers, and movement in me, this would just stop... we all need to arrange a simultaneous prayer and candle ceremony with fasting or something!! I just want Mark to get a break here!
Ok, I'll continue my rambling in my own head and move to encouragment:). Thank you Lord for the incredible technology of modern medicine,which has kept him here thus far. Amazing doctors to take care of him so well, and take all the hours neccesary to stich all those strong muscles back together. Mark will have the most radical testimony ever!!! Think of what he can do with his life now, the power that will come from this man, now living ONLY because of a miracle, the purpose he will have.

As for the driver of the car----I have no words, the anger is too disgusting right now!

STRENGTH LOVE PRAYERS
Expecting more miracles.....
Michelle

7:29 PM  
Blogger k said...

dear darlene,
it is fitting that you spoke of the moon...which we all looked upon with marvel, from our many different corners of the world. there is something about mark and likely bigger than mark that has brought all of your readers together...somehow this seems very important. i think it speaks to the power and love that surrounds him. what is it about this man, about your mark? i am so sorry that he has had to endure this 3rd surgery but after my initial sadness i am left with a sense of hope, resilience, and resolve. he can do this. he will do this.
much love to you all.
kristin (the OT)

7:40 PM  
Blogger Nic Bridges said...

I'm crying for you all, and hoping/praying/wishing that this will be the last of these awful setbacks that keep breaking your heart over & over. Just hang in there.

11:13 PM  
Blogger dd said...

Keeping the vigil, may God Bless you all...

love, sandy

11:35 PM  
Blogger Ali la Loca said...

Yours was the first blog I read after 10 days away from internet in South Africa. I thought of Mark and you and your family the entire time.

You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, 10,000 miles away.

11:53 PM  
Blogger Goddess of Leonie said...

still sending love, light, healing, beautiful thoughts

12:10 AM  
Blogger angela said...

Thanks for taking the time to update us, darlene.
There is always hope.
Hugs,
Angela

12:29 AM  
Blogger Tongue in Cheek Antiques said...

It is the most frightening part of life to look at suffering, especially in the eyes of our children! It is devasting to watch and know that our love (strong and healing as it is,) is all that we have to give! Enduring the suffering of Mark's pain is living hell! It is what makes the heart bleed and pump a deep and rich love! COURAGE! I pray for your family and for Mark healing grace!!
My prayers, join the angels gathered here, we surround you.
Courage!

1:19 AM  
Blogger luzie said...

Still praying, still thinking.. ((Darlene ))

1:45 AM  
Blogger Vanessa said...

Still with you and your family.
Sending love and hoping for good news.
Vanessa

2:36 AM  
Anonymous Cape Cod Kitty said...

Darlene, The candles remain lit, and the universe is supporting you. Rest in the peace and hope, trust the healing powers, let go, and be sure there is a power greater than any you have ever known which will sustain you.
This is wrenching for your body, mind and spirit and my heart aches for you all.
Cape Cod Kitty

3:24 AM  
Blogger Becca said...

My heart is aching for you all - If only all our strength could be transferred to you and Mark and all your family.

Constant prayers go out to you, Darlene...xoxo

4:29 AM  
Blogger magicaldamselfly said...

I have a burning candle and a prayer posted on my blog for Mark and ask that all you lovely souls would do the same.
I'll continue to hold Mark up in prayer throughout this journey.
Darlene, you are not alone!

Prayers and blessings,
Sheila

4:34 AM  
Anonymous glo said...

So sorry to hear about the emergency surgery. My Mom and I am are praying for Mark to be whole again...and for you to be healthy as well. You are not alone in this... God Bless xo glo

4:40 AM  
Blogger Gemma said...

Sending prayers

5:56 AM  
Blogger Gracey said...

As always, praying for Mark and for you daily. I was so hoping for more good news and so sorry there was the set back with the emergency surgery. He made it through the surgery and that is something to be thankful for and that the nurse found it sooner than later. It's hard to see the little things to be thankful for. Your boy is a fighter and he is going to continue to be so. You are also a fighter...stay strong for him!

6:07 AM  
Blogger Susannah said...

sweetheart, I am keeping a candle lit for Mark, and for you, and i have one always burning in my heart too... sending you peaceful healing hugs.... hang in there, you are doing wonderfully xxx

6:50 AM  
Blogger The Whole Self said...

my heart is breaking, too. i keep talking to my friends and they will mention you and your family...even friends that don't have blogs and that i didn't know even went on the computer. there are so many of us out here rooting for mark.

xoxo

7:34 AM  
Anonymous katie said...

All these prayers...I'll add mine too them.
All my hope, love, and positive energy to you too.

7:58 AM  
Blogger Uber Mer said...

My family and I are praying for yours. ~be well~

xoxo Meridith

8:04 AM  
Blogger Kim G. said...

I'm not even sure what words could bring any encouragement or comfort right now, but know that you are both still in my prayers. Lifting you up before God and asking for strength for the road ahead. Peace and love to you.

8:24 AM  
Blogger Chulita said...

Darlene, I was involved in a car accident yesterday morning, but thankfully it was a minor accident. All I kept thinking as I waiting with the other person (who caused the accident) was how fortunate we both were to be OK. The other person was a young girl of about 20 and all she kept doing was crying...but for her car because it was a brand new one. Poor girl, she just could not see beyond the material. I kept trying to tell her that the important thing was that we were alive and whole, but she was unable to listen--so distraught was she over her car. And I also kept thinking about Mark and praying even harder for him, sending him as much positive energy as I could. And about you and your whole family. I don't know why he was singled out to go through this, but he will pull through, with all the love he feels from everyone around him. Thank you Darlene, for sharing all of this with us. It helps us all to trully understand how connected we all are. All of us here on Earth are so important, one to the other, we need to keep that connection strong by praying for each others suffering. God Bless us all.
Warm hugs and much love,
xoxo

8:48 AM  
Blogger Turquoise CRO said...

A piece of my heart is out in California! My prayers are right with you and Mark and the family!HOPE and FAITH and LOVE, LOVE and prayers and many angels, Cinda xoxoox((((((Mark & his Family))))))GOD Bless YOU all with HEALING!

8:50 AM  
Blogger +*-s-t-e-f-f-*+ said...

Father Lord, I pray for your healing hand to be on Mark now. Protect him from anything, and help him that he may gain his health back again. Lord, I pray that You bless his family right now. No matter what happens, I pray You will be with them at this time. Lord, we may feel angered at the driver involved, but I know that You will not let him go free for something he has done to an innocent young boy.

In Jesus' name,
I pray

Amen.

9:02 AM  
Blogger poet said...

checking in to let you know i'm here for you as much as anyone can here in blogland. take care of you. love and all the hugs and prayers i can send, poet.

11:47 AM  
Blogger Blue the Spa Girl said...

I am still reeling at the thought of him pulling himself out of that canal.
I can't believe it. How many angels were by his side when he found the strength to do that and then call you.
I am astounded. I think about your family everyday. I think about all of you, now that you have posted photos, you are such real people, going through this really horrible thing.
I am always keeping you in my thoughts, even when I wake up in the night to check on my own kids, I whisper a prayer for you guys.
I feel thankful that you were led into our lives, for so many reasons.
I refused to go out on New Years eve, and Christmas eve, for fear of drunk drivers.
I think Mark's accident will serve as a huge lesson to all of those who read this.
Sending virtual hugs...
and prayers.
xo

11:48 AM  
Blogger Annabelle said...

I'm without words. I can only imagine the pain felt by your son and your family. I can only offer my prayers.
"With God all things are possible."- Mark 10:27

Annabelle ~^..^~ xoxoxo

11:58 AM  

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