Monday, December 25, 2006

A Mothers Instincts & A Child's Needs (***New Update #14***)

Kindergarten 1989

1st Grade

When our children are thirsty, we give them something to drink. When they are hungry, we feed them. We also clothe them, tuck them into bed and remind them to brush their teeth. But, what is one of the most important things we do for them? Who do they want when they are not feeling well?...

We take care of them when sickness strikes and it is Momma they want when they aren't feeling well. I have learned that these instincts never fully leave. They may become less demanding, but nevertheless, it all remains...a Mother's instincts and a child's needs.

Mark has not eaten in 7 days, nor has he had anything to drink. His broken back is the least of the Doctors concern...that blows me away. Because of his high fever, he has been laying on a ice blanket. He begs and begs us for water, his teeth are chattering and the ice is aggravating his broken back. (Normally, we would be applying heat, at this point.) He asks us constantly to take him home and keeps forgetting where he is and what had happened. He thinks we are lying to him, don't care that he is being tortured and he wants me on a regular basis.

My husband and I stay strong in front of him, explain each unmet constant pleading
and keep telling him of our love. We leave and drive silently home, each running the days happenings through our minds and it is not until we sit down on the couch, that we break down and the tears flow freely. Intellectually, we know we are doing the right thing, but our hearts break a little more each day and we start every sunrise affirming all the good. My son will be 25 in February, but right now, he feels more like a helpless child than ever. In his eyes, I see the little boy above.

***Update~Hello my faithful lovelies~

Today has been a very interesting day, a roller coaster of sorts....
The pneumonia is a staff infection that he got from the hospital.
His gaping chest has a vacuum on it to suck out as much internal infection as possible, this he must wear for 4-5 hours.
He maintained a high fever for the entire day and is in unbearable pain.
But, he looks stronger, to this Mother's eyes.

As most of you know boho (aka Denise/bohemian girl) is my lil sis, making her Mark's Auntie. Well, Denise is very special to Mark and he always had a crush on her. She and boho boy have taken one of the vigil shifts at the hospital, from approximately 7 p.m. ~ 10 p.m. Earlier, I had told Denise that I really felt she had a very strong healing affect on him. Lo and behold, during her shift tonight, his fever went from 102.6 ~ 101 (!) That is a huge deal because his fever was really the most perplexing symptom. She will be here for one more day (& shift). She and boho boy lifted his spirits tonight, made him smile and actually chuckle (which caused Mark pain) and she will return the week that Mark comes home to start his long recuperation. I know you all already know what a love she is, but my children mean the world to me and she has set aside her own life to give of herself to my most precious boy. Kudos's to Denise & Carsten!

Then, there is YOU!!! When Mark comes home, he will be reading...or I will be reading to him...every kind comment, every email and things that have come in the mail....from YOU! He is going to be blown away, as have I and even MORE healing will take place. I actually look forward to his reaction to this incredible, miraculous response. Bless you, Bless your families, Bless your continued support.......we are so humbled.


Blogger Chulita said...

I still have a candle on for Mark, you and your family. I lit it again this morning with a prayer for all of you. And I will keep lighting it every time I am home until this ordeal is finally over for all of you, but especially for Mark. God be with you and Bless you all.

11:37 PM  
Anonymous amy said...

i have so much admiration for you and your husband, in fact for all of your family who are getting through this together. i know that you don't have a choice in the matter but you make a decision every day about what energy and attitude you take into that room.. and to make that choice well takes courage and strength.
best wishes,

11:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I too will keep lighting candles and saying prayers for Mark and your family. I am glad that people are preparing meals for the family. Please do not be afraid to ask for anything else you may need. If there is anything you need from those of us who are far away...please let us know okay.

I know that as his mother you need and want to be there as much as possible...but please rest whenever you can. I send your family my love.


11:59 PM  
Anonymous Jodes said...

Still thinking of Mark everyday and sending my prayers to him. I thank you for sharing with such raw and honest emotion your journey through this painful time. Everyone's story is valuable and important in bringing people closer and increasing our understanding of what it is to be human. Thank you for your gift to us.
much love

12:00 AM  
Blogger Lisa(oceandreamer) said...

I have never been a mother, but I had a mother...and the need for her never went away, especially when I was sick or hurting. It is in those moments of quiet hand holding, the gentle stroke on his cheek, the whispering of I love you. Just the knowing you are there...those are moments of healing that transcends his wounds. This heals his soul, even if he can't articulate it. It is all you can do while the physicians do their part. It's frustrating I know, that want to kiss away the booboo and make it all better is no doubt powerful. Stay strong dear Darlene.. lean on others as needed and when you are feeling spent...reach out...we're here.
Candles bright.
Much love,

12:01 AM  
Blogger a m y said...

I prayed again for you today, and updated my family about your situation.

I'm not a mom, but I happen to have an absolutely awesome mother, and I know that to our mommy's, we are always small children. And the gift of knowing how to love us in that way is the biggest gift a mom can give.

Love to you, dear one. Bless you.

12:11 AM  
Blogger Shaz said...

From the day the minute the moment our babes a placed in our arms, from the moment of conception a mothers LOVE is an unconditional evrlasting promise to put our child before all else. The experiences, the pain the joy the emotional roller coaster ride of watching our kids grow is all felt by you both. Doing the right thing is sometimes the hardest.
My sweet girl you do it with more compassion and strength of character than a mother could possibly achieve your anxiety and fears are held close to your Heart for the sake of your babe and I admire you in so many ways. YOU are the epitomy of a momma. Hold on tight Dar you are doing a wonderful job for him, but please take care of you.
I love You and the Prayers will continue for always. xx

1:11 AM  
Blogger deirdre said...

Darlene, I'm awake with insomnia tonight, so thought I'd check in for updates. I don't have children myself, and have seen some really bad parenting, but can relate, as an oldest sister, to the never-ending need to nurture. It must be torture for you to be unable to make this better for Mark. There is no amount of letting go that prepares you for this helplessness. You and your husband are doing the right things. Breathe deeply and hold each other well.

2:07 AM  
Blogger Susannah said...

darling, you are the best mother any man/boy/child could wish for for, and you are *his* mummy, his sanctuary. he knows this, and i know you must give him so much strength. you and jay are doing absolutely the right thing, and he is in the best place place - the only place - he needs right now. hang in there, my love, this storm willl pass and he will be home with you sooner than you think. i'm sending you the biggest hug, full of love and comfort and strength, to take the burden from your shoulders for a moment xoxox

3:28 AM  
Blogger Jemima said...

Sounds like you're doing a wonderful job in horrible times. Wishing you well.

3:32 AM  
Anonymous Suzie Q said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you still. Keep up your strength and know that people all over the world are holding you & your family in their hearts & minds.
Love and Hugs coming your way...
Suze xXx

3:38 AM  
Blogger rising to the challenge said...

As powerful and strong as our love is, so too can the pain be measured. Though you probably feel more numb and dejected than ever, you are probably more alive now than you ever have been before. Enduring this will only make all of you stronger, hard as that may seem to accept now. You and your husband are simply amazing and Mark -your baby- my hereo- is so brave.
I'm wrapping you up in a soft blanket of love, warmth and comfort.

3:47 AM  
Anonymous acumamakiki said...

I have so much admiration for your strength and ability to pull yourself up and continue to update us. I can't begin to imagine the horror that you and your husband must see everytime you close your eyes.
I keep praying for Mark and am glad to know that he's remaining stable even if he's not out of the woods yet.

4:07 AM  
Blogger deni said...

I just want to give you such a big hug, having a son myself who is only a month older than Mark, I can't imagine the heartache. I know how helpless I felt when my mother was terminally ill, but I don't know if I could bear watching my child suffer. I pray that God lends you His strength, that He keeps all of you in His hands, and carries you through this. I pray for healing for Mark, wisdom for the doctors and hospital staff. And I pray that love continually surrounds you.


4:35 AM  
Anonymous Brian said...

Darlene. Don't forget to take care of yourself as well. The strain of constant care can take a toll on you and your family. Don't let yourself feel guilty that you are not doing enough for Mark. Your love shines through your words.

4:38 AM  
Blogger Michelle O'Neil said...

Mark's pictures are precious.

We are holding Mark in peace, love and healing and praying for your entire family.

5:49 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

I'm your age, Darlene, and I still miss my mother every single day and wish she was around when I was sick, so I'm not surprised at how much Mark wants and needs you right now. But that has to be so hard on you and your husband - to have to do what he needs and let the medical people do what they need to do, instead of being able to give Mark what he wants. It has to be hard to be strong for him every day. But you are strong and brave and loving (I know sometimes, in the darkest times, you don't believe that, but you are), and we're all sending you prayers and good thoughts every day for you to find the strength you need to deal with this each day, as we also pray for Mark to heal. {{{Darlene}}}

6:09 AM  
Blogger Star said...

Lighting my candle for Mark again this morning.

I totally understand his need for his momma and the unconditional love and soothing comfort only you can give.

As I pray for healing for Mark and guidance for those directing his care, I also pray for strength for you and your family. Sending a hug to wrap around you and a shoulder on which to lay your head. Rest up, dear one.

6:29 AM  
Anonymous Marilyn said...

We were out of town briefly, but I've just caught up on your posts. On Christmas Eve and Christmas morning we were at church services...and I just wanted to tell you that I included Mark (and YOU) in my prayers. As DebR said, I'm sure it has to be hard to focus on what he needs medically, rather than what he wants emotionally...and I imagine the hardest part is somehow balancing those two. Have they said what's causing the constant high fever? Is it related to the bacterial infection? Hope you will continue to allow your family to support YOU. Take care.

6:32 AM  
Blogger Left-handed Trees... said...

I hope you are still holding on...breath by breath, moment by moment. Right this very second, your son is being cared for and you are doing everything you can to protect him. You are all doing a beautiful job with great strength and love. I hope peace is yours soon...

6:36 AM  
Blogger Jerri said...

Our prayers continue to be with you and your family, Darlene. Although Mark may not understand it right now, you are caring for him now as you have throughout his life. The time will come when he knows that.

Continued strength and love to you.

6:53 AM  
Blogger bronxbt said...

you both need to keep your strength up as well. from personal experience, during my traumatic ordeal, one thing i noticed was how sickly & emanicapted folks i loved around me got... I needed THEM to stay healthy and strong, and at one point, my guilt and depression in seeing them get sick hurt ME... i was internalizing and feeling so responsible for their failing health that i failed to focus on mine.

take shifts. trust doctors. doctors can also prescribe to you 2 a sanity diet of sorts that can provide you both with simple, easy and portable meal advice to keep yer OWN energies up.

stay well, be strong, and i will check back again soon.


7:03 AM  
Blogger Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

Dear Dar,
This must be so confusing and scary for Mark. I cannot imagine the difficulty and angst you, Jay and his other family members are enduring watching him go through this ... you are doing the right thing and I continue to pray that his medical team use all their skills, wisdom and compassion to help Mark heal and get through this difficult stage.
Much peace and love to all of you, Deborah

7:18 AM  
Blogger Jack K. said...

Our children will always remain special in our minds and hearts. Thank goodness for that hard-wiring.

Please let Mark know that he is not alone. There are a whole bunch of us out here who are pulling for him.

We are also pulling for you and the rest of the family.

We send you scads and scads of loving support.

PS: Please heed bronxbt's comments about taking care of yourselves.

10:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think we are all our ages at once in some ways, and times like this certainly are a reminder. Every day will make a difference. Every gesture of love you share, every touch, loving word, it all matters immeasurably in the path of healing Darlene, and I am thinking of you and Mark and just wanted to check in to make sure you knew prayers, well wishes, love, and thoughts continue to be with you and Mark and all your family. xoxo
Alexandra (Marvelous Madness)

11:12 AM  
Blogger Amanda said...

wow, i just came over from michelle's blog. my thoughts are with you. this hits very close to home. i wish you and your family all the very best...and i am sending all my positive thoughts west - in your direction.

11:15 AM  
Blogger Nessie Noodle said...

Your son and your family were in my thoughts all weekend. I said a prayer for you and him at church on Sun. night. Just know that there are people out here cheering on the healing process.
May you stay strong, may you try to find peace and may Mark begin to recover.

1:03 PM  
Blogger Amber said...

Poor Mark!! I feel so bad for him...It is so hard to be in pain like he is. But to be in pain, and not understand it all! ((Mark))

I am praying so hard for you guys! I know you are hearing this all the time, and maybe it is hard to hear now...But it is all we can give you. Just support and love sent on angels wings.


1:48 PM  
Blogger Trish Ryan said...

You are so right...that basic instinct of wanting your mother when things are scary and they hurt never goes away, especially if (as is very clearly the case with you and Mark) your mom loved you well as you grew up.

Thank you for all the wonderful pictures of your family, Breezy, Mark at different ages - it helps me to pray, and also to see the strength and love God has already planted in your family. Your roots are deep, and God will sustain you and keep you strong. And we will keep adding our prayers for Mark's healing and recovery to your bowl.
Much love to you tonight,

2:50 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

3:01 PM  
Blogger ~Bek~ said...

You and Jay are amazing healers...
Mark is going to get through this.
I continue to light candles and whisper Mark's name thoughtout the day accompanied by many prayers.
I love you.

3:53 PM  
Blogger StephieAnne said...

I continue to read each new update and continue to pray for you, your family, and your son. I'm so sorry you have to watch him endure such pain - When my son was 9 months old, he had a "stroke" - it was so unheard of at the time that they had no idea what would possibly be causing the three seizures he'd had indicating there was a problem. The hardest moment in being a mom thus far was being told to leave the room while they strapped him down to a "papoose board" and tried unsuccessfully to stab an IV into him. They told me that he was looking to me to "rescue him" and my being there was only making it worse. It was absolutley heart-wrenching (not to mention terrifying as we had no idea if he had a brain tumor or something worse). In the long run, there were no ill effects from the stroke and he's a healthy 7 year old boy - but, the lessons of faith, no matter what the outcome, were huge for me. I pray that ultimately you'll be able to look back on this and recognize the hand God had in it all - despite all of this pain that our world holds.

4:03 PM  
Blogger gerry rosser said...

Still with you in spirit and hope.

4:27 PM  
Blogger dd said...

Once again thanks for the update. I can't imagine what he is going through, and all of you, and will continue to pray and check in here several times a day to see his progress.

These pics of him as a child are adorable. All the best in every moment for you all...may his improvement escalate quickly every day until he is back to his perfect expression.

4:28 PM  
Anonymous AscenderRisesAbove said...

We are continuing to send healing energy to Mark, yourself and your family members. I wish I could do more then this. I appreciate your updates and hope that they provide you with a bit of relief. Wishing I could email you a body worker for yourself.

4:30 PM  
Blogger Dotee said...

Love the photo's of Mark when he was a young boy. Thank you for continuing to share so much when you are going through such a difficult time.

I love you and am keeping Mark and your family in my heart. It must be heart breaking to see him in pain.

Gentle hugs

Dotee xoxo

4:51 PM  
Blogger Mary Timme said...

I don't know if this will help. But, I'm learning that one doesn't die of a broken heart! In fact keeping the soft heart makes us stronger. I'm praying for Mark, for his pain, for his recovery and for his family. All of you. I will not stop.

5:12 PM  
Blogger Sheila said...

Your strength and courage is admirable. It's amazing what we are capable of when the need arises isn't it? I'm a grandmother and still miss my mother most when I feel unwell.Your love for each other shines through, in your accounts of Mark's days and your visits to sit with him. It will be this strength and unwavering love that will see you through.
Prayers continue to be said, candles still flicker an you are all still in my heart and prayers. Multiply that by the many people who have learned of this and know it is all helping to heal Mark, and add to your courage.
God bless you all.

5:18 PM  
Anonymous glo said...

Oh my goodness, Mark looks so darn cute in thos pics...thanks for sharing Darlene. I just know in my heart of hearts that many more pictures will will all create some really beautiful memories in the years to come as a family and look back at this as a difficult chapter in your lives. God bless... xo glo

5:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a terrible, exhausting, painful ordeal. You are loved by strangers...know that many of us who've never...and will probably you are praying full-throttle for you. You say it all so eloquently, even in the middle of your grief. You say it in such a way that makes us all stop and hug our little (or not so little) ones. Thank you for that, and much love from the world at large.

5:50 PM  
Blogger Pink Granite said...

Thank you for the updates, Darlene. So glad to learn of every bit of progress. I was taught to understand fever as being evidence of how hard the body is working to heal itself. Nurture, nourish and pace yourself and you'll continue to have the strength to be there for Mark. We continue to hold you, your family and Mark in our thoughts. - Lee

6:18 PM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

Via Deborah--I am praying for you and your family. I'm a mom too.

7:46 PM  
Blogger Kristin said...

I have found your life story through your Sister Boho's website (whom I found through my sister Kelly, coincidently)I just spent the last hour reading about the horrific accident your son has endured and the equally trying difficult times each second has brought to you and your family. I know the comfort you are feeling from all these strangers words and hope to offer a few of my own to help rise you and your loved ones up. You ARE NOT ALONE.

I am your sons age and know how important family is. And my mother (a very spiritual woman) has always said when 2 or more come together before God it is more effective so I feel that involving the whole world (wide web) is quite a brilliant move.

These prayers and vigils and all this LOVE will not (can not) go unnoticed or unheard.

Whenever I am in my lowest of lows I remind myself that when I feel I have hit rock bottom...there is no where else to look (or go) but UP!

I will pray to my GOD that he will give Mark, you and yours the strength to rise from and above this. That he will continue to remain the center of Marks progress and be there to offer everything that you will need in your moments of sadness, weakness, and hopelessness. Just know that WE are all here to help lift you all.



7:52 PM  
Blogger Ziji Wangmo said...

It is the day after Christmas. I just read your entire blog and I am holing back the tears. I have four small children and the love that you have for your som is infectious. i cannot help but feel the love you have for him - I read your story and can feel myself in your shoes. You have amazing strength - I will continue to read your posts and will send blessings your way. I also live in Northern California in Marin County - we are not that far apart. Inmany ways your writing is about connecting us all through the power of love.
many many blessings to you and your family.

8:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As I write this, I am saying a prayer for a miracle. I know it is coming your way. Love, L

8:41 PM  
Blogger amy said...

Still praying for Mark, and for your well-being too.

9:53 PM  
Blogger Shaz said...

I will be with you all to the end for as long as it takes. Things sound as though there getting a little better, baby steps sweet girl.
Prayers and blessings and a candle to guide him toward the strength he needs to recover.
Love and Hugs xxx

10:36 PM  
Blogger angela said...

Still thinking of you and praying for you.
I wish we lived closer then I could be of real help!

10:45 PM  
Blogger Libbys Blog said...

So pleased to hear there appears to be a glimmer at the end of the tunnel! Family love is so important as is that unseen bond between us all.
My thoughts as always are with you.

10:54 PM  
Blogger Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

Dear sweet Dar,

I'm glad they've detected the source of fever and are treating the staff infection. Dear Mark - one additional thing his poor body did not need to deal with.

God bless Denise and Carsten. Thank goodness you have the loving presence of family there to help Mark & you through this challenging experience.

Our thoughts and prayers continue for all of you.

Much love and daily prayers,
Deb, Lance and family

11:00 PM  
Blogger a m y said...

such a loving, wonderful family...glad to have you gals in my bloggie family!

much love, peace and SLEEP to you guys.

11:01 PM  
Blogger zorana said...

Hugs for boho girl! She brought a smile to my face, too. We are with you in wishes that every day brings improvement. Sending good energy :-)

11:01 PM  
Anonymous amy said...

i don't know your sister but visit her blog on occasion .. it doesn't suprise me that she and her husband might have a positive affect on their nephew. they seem to have such lovely spirits.. it must run in the family.

i hope things continue to improve.

take care.

11:19 PM  
Blogger giggles said...

Darlene I am so pleased Marks fever is declining. I know certain people have wonderful healing powers. What a blessing to have your sister there and her family. You need that! Today I was thinking it would be neat to construct a blog for Mark, to use in the future, when he’s recuperating....everyone could send him personal may take some of the angst out of being confined! Just a thought of course....but none the less, we'd be able to help him through it... My daughter is checking daily for updates too.... I think everyone feels the need to know he’s okay. Down the road you’ll be writing from a Mothers perspective and he could write a blurb here and there….about what he’s going through from his perspective…. Maybe the amalgamation of the two blogs would make a book…
As I said…just something to ponder.. ….a bit of a diversion from the nightmare!
Right now I am sending you hope. faith…..and love!!! Take care best you can Darlene, we’re all rooting for you. Your immeasurable courage dear lady is so admirable!
What an phenomenal mother and woman you are!!! All the best!

Love and hugs Sherrie

11:43 PM  
Blogger whitesnake said...

One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to remain strong. You do what you believe to be right yet the tears well in the backs of your eyes, you feel you may have let them down. YOU Haven't you have been and done what you have to.

No one likes to see a child in pain and more so when it one of your own. To feel helpless is a feeling that is like a cancer. How you deal with that is so important.

Where by I am not neccessary a religious person, I shall say a pray for you and yours.

For what it is worth please let your son know a guy from Australia popped by to see how he was getting on.

If you need to yell and scream pop by some time and do it.

11:52 PM  
Anonymous liz elayne said...

we continue to say prayers and light candles for you and your family darlene.

i am so glad denise is there to give you all her special strength and wisdom.

12:10 AM  
Anonymous Lady Painter said...

Oh ! I am so happy ! You see, this is the beginning of the better and it will not stop to be everyday stronger and stronger.
I am so absolutely convinced of the power of positive energy. This is the proof that it works. So we must continue to send you all our postive power through our prayers and offerings so that the positive energy will winn agains the negative fear and pain.
With all my love to you all, and a cuddle to the little dog...

12:46 AM  
Anonymous acumamakiki said...

This is fantastic news! I'm so very pleased to know that Mark is doing better. I'm going out of town for 2 days and won't be able to check the computer so this makes me breathe a little easier. Still sending prayers and love your way.

3:17 AM  
Blogger rising to the challenge said...

Dearest Darlene,
Your sister is indeed a little miracle maker! I am so pleased that she and Carsten managed to raise Mark's spirits so. This news has really made me smile. I so look forward to further news of progress and healing. And I continue to keep Mark in my thoughts as the year draws to a close. Love and strength winging its way to you both from Dublin.

3:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I haven't had access to a computer for 2 days and the first thing I did when I returned home was check-in on Mark's recovery. I am not surprised to hear he wanted so desperately to hug his Mum - I want to hug her as well!

3:26 AM  
Blogger Becca said...

You are sounding stronger each day, although you must be tired beyond belief. It's wonderful that you have so much support from your sister and all your family. You will look back on this horrible time some day and marvel at the way it brought you all closer.

It's so good to hear some positive signs about Mark's condition. We are thankful for every improvement - our prayers and positive engery are working :)

Hang on, hang in there~~

3:54 AM  
Blogger brittany said...

I sigh a sigh of relief. That boho, ya just have to love her. I would've had a crush on her too if I were Mark;)

prayers for more miracles of healing are coming your way. And I mean business.

You sound a tiny bit lighter and that is one thing I have been praying for, too.

love to your family, love to you.


5:12 AM  
Blogger martha in ny said...

So glad your sister can be there with you to help form your circle of healing.

5:25 AM  
Blogger Star said...

Oh, Darlene, what great news that Mark's fever is down! Yahoo!

It is so good to hear that he was able to share a laugh with your sis; I know it hurt, but it is a good sign.

As soon as I get to work (about half a hour from now) I'll be lighting my candle again, sending the prayers soaring up on the warm air above its flame. Keep expecting miracles; I am! :D

5:32 AM  
Blogger mrsnesbitt said...

Great that Denise has had such a positive affect for Mark!
Blessings from another Denise here, in UK!

Lots of hugs!

5:34 AM  
Blogger maggiegracecreates said...

That news is wonderful. It is amazing how healing energy works. My girls are at the very center of my life and I cannot imagine the fear and pain you have been through. I am glad boho is there. I have been praying for she and Carsten as they follow the path to becoming parents. Sounds like you all have such a beautiful and strong bond. That strength will help Mark too.

Celebrate each small victory. Don't just give Mark the comments from your journal. Give him your story too. I believe he will be amazed again at the strength and beauty and love his parents have for him.

Rest for you is still so important.

5:49 AM  
Blogger Juli said...

As I sit here with a smile, I am reminded of the healing power of love. Mark is surrounded by it and that offers tremendous hope for his continued healing. I'm so glad to read this update this morning and, as always, look forward to the next one.

Wishing you continued strength and sending healing love vibes to Mark. :)

5:53 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

Yay for the BohoVibe! Sending more good thoughts to all of you~~~~~~

6:01 AM  
Blogger Jerri said...

So glad to hear Mark's fever is dropping. Wonderful, wonderful news. Thanks for taking the time to let us know.

God does SO move in mysterious ways. Who could have predicted the circle of love and support that would weave itself around you and your family? How does one person—even an extraordinary person like Boho—hold healing power for another? Such a mystery. Such a privilege to observe, even from afar.

May God's love continue to surround and enfold you, giving you and Mark strength to continue the journey.

Blessings be.

6:05 AM  
Blogger Fern said...

The good news is such a blessing to hear. I will keep praying till Mark is 100%

6:05 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Mark and your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers. I am wishing you all healing thoughts to help ease the pain and to continue to bring you the strength and courage that you all have. I admire your strength and wish Mark strength and healing prayers.

6:45 AM  
Blogger poet said...

here for you, if only in spirit and on the net, and sending healing thoughts and sending hugs and prayers for you and your family for mark. love, poet.

6:47 AM  
Blogger dd said...

Hi Darlene, how odd that just last night I made my way to your sis' website and blog. What a beauty she is, well all you sisters.

She had a picture of Mark, taken at her wedding. Wow, good looking son with that long hair. Well short or long hair, he is good looking.

That's amazing about his fever going down while she was there.

Will continue praying and "seeing" him whole and healthy, as well as yourself.

Take care,
love, sandy

6:49 AM  
Blogger luzie said...

Oh wow, I'm so relieved to read more positive news. Proves once again that the impact close family ties have on all of us is amazing.. healing powers en masse. Still thinking of you.. and thank you for your continuous updates.


6:49 AM  
Blogger Teri said...

So heartening that there's hope with the pain, laughter with the tears...keep on breathing in and out, all of you...

i loved reading that sentence:

...she will return the week that Mark comes home...


6:56 AM  
Anonymous Kim in IN said...

I am grinning from ear to ear reading your update and just the tone of it I can sense a relief of sorts. He IS moving on to higher ground!! He's gonna beat that nasty infection,that fever is gonna go!!
Bless you Darlene! Keep taking care of yourself.
Heaps of love and prayers,
Kim in IN.

7:08 AM  
Blogger Amber said...

I am so happy to hear he felt a tiny bit of happiness at his Auntie being with him. And good about the fever! Those staff infections! Dang it, every time someone I know goes into the hospital, they have gotten a staff infection! With my grandpa in the end, he was so old and frail, it was about as risky to have in the hospital as it would have been to keep him home, because of that. Pft!
I hope continues to get well, so they can start taking care of the rest of him.

It is so funny how God works, and how life works. Who would have thought that blogging, of all things, would have been a source of so much prayer and care? That is a wonderful thing! The world made smaller in a time of need. I just wish there was something we could REALLY do to help and relieve you all...((hugs))

I wrote a Sunday Scribble for you this week, just to get even more people praying. I hope it works. ;)
I hope by the New Year everything will look even better!

Love to you.


8:01 AM  
Anonymous ceanandjen said...

Darlene, all improvements are such wonderful news! The fact that his fever went down and they are working to releive Mark's body of the infection is definite progress! And the fact that Denise is having such a healing affect on Mark is proof that healing energy does indeed work miracles!

I continue to hold you all in my heart and in my prayers.

Love to you all,

8:37 AM  
Blogger Claire said...

Continuing to send prayers and love sweetheart.


8:38 AM  
Blogger red sun said...

oh Dar... what a lovely update. positive thoughts all around! i'm so very happy to hear that there is some light shed on these difficult days. laughter and family are the best medicines. i know he has a long road ahead, but please know that you and Mark in in my thoughts. sending prayers and healing energy from the northeast... E

8:52 AM  
Blogger hepmomto3 said...

You ahve been in my constant prayers since I first read about Mark. He is so blessed to have such an amazing family. Prayers for continued healing.

8:59 AM  
Blogger Georgia said...


I am just checking in on you and on Marks progress. I am sending you warm healing thoughts. Don't forget to take care of yourself through all this as well.

Love to you,

9:24 AM  
Blogger BJ said...

Still praying for Mark and family. You are never out of my mind. It was so good to hear that Mark smiled and that his fever went down! Hooray!!!! Seems like your sister has some real power here! People that we love can do that to us. You are one special mom and don't ever forget that. Keeping you and Mark and family in my prayers. God bless.

9:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I visit your blog every day just to see if you have writen an update... I'm looking forward to reading from you "Mark is at home!"... that day will come very soon... all this positive energy thas has been created around Mark and your family is going to help you all... everything is going to be Ok....
God bless you all.
From Spain with love.

9:55 AM  
Blogger LDahl said...

Hello again, I'm just checking in for up-dates. I stopped by yesterday, but to be honest I didn't say anything because I just couldn't ... when I saw his pictures and his birthday is in feb., so is my son's and suddenly I felt so guilty, because I could leave and get my shower and go to work and get on with my day... and you would still be living the nightmare ..... does this make sense? I knew that anything I had to say would not take that away from you for even a second.

So I just went and prayed for you all in the shower:)))

Today he sounds better, I think and hope and pray this is the turning point we so hope for.

9:56 AM  
Anonymous Dale Smith said...

It is incredible to think that all of you are being upheld by the thoughts and genuine love of so many people - people who you will never know but whose love is the soft place where you can rest and heal.

10:08 AM  
Anonymous Pattie Polakow said...

Darlene, I just was catching up reading Denise's post when I learned about Mark's accident. I was Denise's room-mate at Bethany College. I have occasionally read your posts and really enjoyed catching up hearing about life. I am a Registered Respiratory Therapist and I understand the seriousness of Mark's critical state.
God has a purpose and a plan for Mark. God hears the prayers of his people and there is a reason that Mark was allowed to go through this trauma. Please know that I am speaking prayers of healing over Mark. God has wonderful things in store for your son. I am praying for Mark's spirits and that God will touch his heart and renew his faith in his heavenly Father. I also am praying for a spirit of determination and a will to fight and to LIVE... to live life more abundantely. He is forever faithful. Love, Pattie Polakow

10:09 AM  
Blogger Random Reflections said...

So sorry to read of what you are going through at the moment. There look like good signs of hope though - long may they continue so that Mark can be home with you soon.

Take care.

10:30 AM  
Blogger Gracey said...

I read your blog and updates about your son and I have no idea what to say to you that would do any bit of comforting. I am only 26 and do not have any children and can only imagine just a fraction of what you are feeling for your boy. My heart breaks to hear about his suffering and the most awful pain imaginable that he is in. I pray that God will do a miracle in your son's body and heal it from all of the damage that was caused by the accident.

Mark, I would like to say to you that you have been incredibly brave. Remember each time you may want to give up that you have a purpose in this life and to keep being strong. You will get through this. You are strong!! You are brave!! You will HEAL!! You will be in my prayers constantly.

10:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Blessings for a quick recovery and strength for all of you from a little noone who was really touched by your heartache...

11:00 AM  
Anonymous homeinkabul said...

Sending you prayers of peace, joy, comfort and healing.

11:12 AM  
Blogger tut-tut said...

I've put Mark in my prayers. Keep as strong as you can and know that there are many many people praying as hard as they can.

11:53 AM  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

you and your family are still in my prayers. i've been keeping up with everything through boho but i wanted you to know you've been on my mind through this holiday season.

1:07 PM  
Blogger Kim G. said...

Still praying and hoping for more blessings like the smile, the chuckle (painful as it was) and the continued drop in the fever. Good to hear these small little gifts and we'll be praying for more.

Take care of you! :)

2:12 PM  
Blogger Jenni said...

Continuing prayers and loving thoughts for you and Mark, and your whole family. I don't comment regularly, but I do check daily for updates. This Christmas I thought of your family. God Bless.


2:39 PM  
Blogger Jenny Rough said...


Thinking of you and Mark and your family each day even though I've been off-line. When I came back home and checked out the blogosphere it was amazing to see all the people spreading the word on your blog and asking them to visit your site and offer their prayers.

4:03 PM  
Blogger Turquoise CRO said...

I am so GLAD Boho and Boho boy have been there and Boho gal will be coming back! I dreamed about YOU last night or early this morning Darlene!!! You were coming to visit me and there was a futuristic BIG screen tv we looked into and we could see a whole lot of people holding hands and standing in a circle praying for MARK! Your happy eyes and sweet smile melted my heart! You called it the circle of LOVE! Take care of yourself too sweet girly! LOVE and prayers, Cinda YOU and your sweet Mark and your whole family are in the circle of LOVE for sure! (((((((Mark)))))) XOXOXOXO ps. I love those childhood pics of Mark! My daughter and I was watching home movies last night and my heart began to melt as I saw my children at younger ages! My GOD! Hug your children every day! They still need it! xoxooxox

4:30 PM  
Anonymous Jenn said...


It's really wonderful to hear Mark smiled today. It's those sweet simple moments that carry us through the hard ones. Keep us posted and remember we are all praying for you and your family.


5:09 PM  
Anonymous glo said...

I am so happy to read about Mark's fever going down...yipeeee!!!! (Doing joy dance!!!) And hooray for Boho Girl...she is adorable... a truly beautiful soul!! I learned of your blog thru hers... I wish you all many more blessings and miracles... God bless xo Glo

5:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

We're all one , we think we're seperated but we're not , we're all feeling your pain and Mark's pain ,it's our pain too ,you're constantly in our thoughts and prayers, we're all sending you strength and so much love from all over the world.
I am a mother with a similar illness to yours ,I know how much you have to struggle to find some energy in the normal times and now it must be a thousand times more difficult ! please take care of yourself too.You are an amazing women and your courage is an inspiration to us all !So glad there is an improvement in Mark's health.
Sending you lots of loving support
Violette , ( from London UK )

5:54 PM  
Blogger dd said...

Feeling concerned and hoping all is well. Will keep checking back for updates.

Will continue with prayers tonight for Mark.

love, sandy

7:50 PM  
Blogger Uber Mer said...

I've been thinking about you and your family through the holiday week. I am so, so relieved to hear that Mark's fever has gone down. You WILL get through this. My family and I are still sending you and your family prayers, wishes, and good thoughts.

Please be well. ~ Meridith

8:51 PM  
Blogger Vesper said...

i've been checking your blog every single day, usually more than once a day. thinking about all of you lots! continued meditations sent your way. love love love and more love!!!!

9:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great news about the fever going down...
I still think of you all each day.
Keep up the good fight!
Blue the spa girl

9:41 PM  
Blogger magicaldamselfly said...

I just ran across your blog by way of Leonie and it has left a huge scar upon my heart. I will be lifting your Mark up in prayer and adding him to my intercessory prayer. I will also be adding him to my circle of prayer friends.
Stay strong!

12:44 PM  
Anonymous Paris Parfait said...

Darlene, your strength can't help but have a positive healing effect on Mark. Besides having his family around him, it sounds as though Mark's doctors are addressing every issue as it arises - all of which is progress, however measured. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers, as you face every new challenge confronting Mark.

3:25 PM  

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