Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Hearing Prayers with Earthly Ears


Update #4 ~ I first must say that the overwhelming support that I feel from YOU, from every corner of the world, is so appreciated. When I leave the hospital, I come home and immediately turn on my computer to read your words. Leaving Mark is so hard, I can barely stand it and just knowing that you are praying, even if you said the same thing over and over, word for word...is strengthening me. I have bundled up the shirt they cut from his body, bound it with a rubber band and clutch it to my breast, wipe my tears and whisper back my 'thank yous' into it, while reading your comments and smelling his scent. Thank You Thank You
I was told that so many people forget their car accidents or other serious tragedies, Mark didn't...he remembered everything. He remembered using his hands to pull the rest of his body out of the canal, thinking he had broken ankles, not a broken back or exposed organs. He remembers each person that came to see him, even if it was ever so brief. He remembered me singing to him and felt the calm that lowered his blood pressure. He remembers that I told him that people were praying for him all over this world...he remembered, despite the amnesia medicine they gave him to reduce his stress.
Mark was taken off the ventilator and is breathing on his own. This meant that he could talk...and ask questions. We answered each one. We told him about the state of his intestines, the surgery and his broken back. We told him of the complications and all the blood transfusions. Then, he cried and we all cried with him. We just stood their rubbing whatever part of him was close to us and cried. He said, "My life is over" so quietly, with so much pain in his eyes. We all back peddled and began to reassure him that he has a lot of future left to live and a hard road that we would walk with him every step of the way, But I felt him squeeze my hand so hard and the presure broke my heart.
He needs more blood, he is still bleeding internally. By morning, we will know if he will go back into surgery. He will also be x-rayed for his back and determine the extent of injury. He will remain in the ICU. Later, he will need a large plastic guard surgically inserted under his abdominal muscles. The tearing was severe and he will be prone to hernia's. He has no idea of this or of the huge L shaped incision that starts between his breasts and goes down to his groin and around to his right side, ending at his back. This will be a harsh moment, as will his road to recovery. If he doesn't have a 2nd surgery tomorrow, he will become more lucid and may decide to look. He is only 24 and has no current girlfriend, the way he looks will matter to him. I am preparing myself for more tears that we will share.
Today I fed him ice chips and wiped down his face and body. For me, he smiled and said thank you. For every Doctor and every Nurse that came and did anything to him, he said thank you. When they had to roll him to check something, with tears in his eyes, he said thank you. He is brave and strong, polite and well mannered and I love him more today, I admire him and he is now, my hero, but still, my baby boy.
I will update you all again, you deserve it for your unwavering show of love and kindness. I am hearing your prayers with my earthly ears.
I will be getting to each one of you for a huge Thank you :)

107 Comments:

Blogger a m y said...

I am so, so, SO glad to read of the improvements. I will continue praying. Love to you and Mark and the rest of your family.

11:07 PM  
Blogger Alexandra G said...

Just checking before going to bed and reading your words, feeling how excrutiatingly hard this must be for all of you, but because he has all of you as family he has such a team and won't be alone in the days and months ahead. No one can know what it is like to be in his shoes, to be in that despair that makes him say his life is over and not be able to see any light at the end of the tunnel, but there will be light, plenty of it. There always is somehow so for now you all can take turns holding that faith for him until he will hold it for himself again. You're in many hearts and prayers tonight.

11:13 PM  
Blogger Laini said...

Darlene -- so so glad to hear Mark is lucid. Though I know not everyone feels the same way, I have tremendous faith and awe in doctors and surgeons. I think it is all miraculous what they can do, and what degree of healing the human body is capable of -- especially the body of a healthy 24-year-old man!

11:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a stranger who will be praying for Gods peace to come over you and healing for your son.
God bless you.
Susan
www.homeschoolblogger.com/mamaduso

11:33 PM  
Blogger angela said...

Such a relief to hear he's awake and lucid.
Thinking of you both,
Big hugs,
Angela

11:33 PM  
Anonymous ceanandjen said...

Darlene, I have been checking in throughout the day. Thank you so very much for letting us know of Mark's progress. While there is still a long way to go, today alone, there seems to be much progress...he is talking and aware...you are able to communicate. That is wonderful news!

His comment regarding his life broke my heart. Regardless of what scars your beautiful boy's body carries forward, he will still have the same heart and soul, and he will be stronger for having gone through this tragedy. Cean's very words to me tonight as I was talking to him about this was the fact that he is young and he is strong. The fact that he was able to crawl his way out of that car and contact you is testiment to this strength. The fact that through all of the choas and moments of fear today, he maintained his appreciation and composure...that shows strength of character, and clearly he is overflowing in that catagory.

We will continue to pray and we are sending you love and healing and hugs and kisses.

Love to you, Mark, J and A...
Jen
xoxoxoxo

11:39 PM  
Anonymous Jen said...

Sending love, warm wishes and prayers. Take care.

11:39 PM  
Anonymous amy said...

what an amazing sounding man. his courage and decency will be so valuable to him during this journey.
amy

11:47 PM  
Blogger Shaz said...

Tears of joy rolling down my cheeks at the news that one more hudle is over he is breathing on his own. My sweet friend it is said over and over but the realisation that world is with you is something I know you dont tire of.
Prayers as a whole family is powerful and real.
May God Be With You all.
We are and I believe he is aswell.
Love always shaz

11:55 PM  
Blogger dd said...

Thank you so much for posting these updates. I wanted to check before i went to bed. Will continue praying and as a mother of four sons, I pray also that you and the family see improvement every day and this lightens your heart. I can't imagine what you have all endured. Prayers going out for Mark tonight and for your family and friends.

Love and blessings, sandy

12:05 AM  
Blogger Ali la Loca said...

Dear Darlene -

I thought of you and Mark all night. I came to the computer this morning to check on any updates. I am glad that you had a chance to speak to each other and answer questions. He sounds like such a strong, amazing boy. I am still praying for you and for his strong recovery.

12:33 AM  
Blogger Claire said...

I am so glad there has been some improvement - your writing is so moving. Sending prayers from the top of the UK.

Blessings,

Cxx

1:09 AM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

I'm glad to read that he's breathing on his own and lucid. Those are small steps, but he's taking them. Much love to you all.

Sophie

1:14 AM  
Anonymous lady painter said...

My prays will still come to you with full of positive energy. My bouddha has a candle for your son. I give you a big kiss and a lot of courage.

1:54 AM  
Blogger Nic Bridges said...

I feel so terrible for you & your family (although you are strangers on the other side of the world, I think of how I'd feel if it were my son) but am glad to hear he is regaining consciousness (hard as it is for him to accept what has happened). Good thoughts & prayers will be coming to you all from down under.

2:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is now evening here and I am so happy to know about the progress...I will be back tomorrow morning...rest....


Luxie

2:29 AM  
Blogger Catherine said...

I just came over from "Red Shoe Ramblings" to read your story, and to say I am thinking of you and your son. I wish you both strength for the days ahead.

2:30 AM  
Blogger rising to the challenge said...

Oh, Darlene. I am so thrilled that Mark has begun breathing on his own and is now able to communicate through speech with you. The bursting charged emotions he is grappling with are, I am sure, more painful than any broken bone or injured organ. But he is so strong. I am full of awe and admiration. I cried before but today I sobbed... for thanks to your beautifully vivid descriptions of his amazing character, he feels like a friend to me, a friend I wish I could hug for real in person and to whom I wish I could promise you'll be well.
Try to tell him that his life is not over, that he is on a detour and that his path will straighten out before him once again in time... and he will look back in amazement and even pride... at his wonderful achievements. He is my hero too.
Sending all my love and strength, shedding some tears and willing him to mend.
Vanessa
xxx

2:52 AM  
Blogger Juli said...

Sending love, courage and comfort to you and your family. You and Mark are undoubtedly STRONG people in so many ways. Hold on to that and to each other.

3:07 AM  
Blogger Susannah said...

darling, it is so fantastic that he is talking and off the ventilator - my heart breaks at the thought of him discovering his scars, but when he is ready to hear it you must reassure him that women are not judgemental, that the right woman will love him so much and the scars will be a part of him and she will love those too. i know i would. we all carry our scars. he sounds so strong, he will survive this, stronger than ever. and i know you'll help him through the depression that will no doubt follow - his mother's love with heal so many of the wounds... love to you D, i'll check in again later... try and sleep if you can, you need to keep your strength up too

xox

3:08 AM  
Blogger swirlyange said...

I'm so happy to hear that he is breathing on his own....thankyou for keeping us updated. He is so lucky to have such a wonderful Mother by his side throughout all of this....you'er simply amazing.
Sending you lots of love,
ange xo

3:37 AM  
Blogger Tammy said...

Sending thoughts of love, support, and recovery to you, your family, and mostly Mark.

3:44 AM  
Blogger Fern said...

Thank God and Goddess he is doing better. I will keep praying for all of you. Thank you so much for keeping us all up to date.

3:52 AM  
Blogger ~Bek~ said...

Oh god Darlene I am so happy to read these words.... read that he is okay and he understands.

I know he feels his life is over, but its only just begun.... he is one remarkable soul {vry much like his Mum} and all will be great again soon.

this I believe.

Bekx

3:53 AM  
Blogger Lisa(oceandreamer) said...

Dearest Darlene, it's 4 a.m. and I couldn't sleep - the first thing I wanted to do was check here for an update. I read it twice. Your love, the love of his family will see Mark through the road ahead.His being lucid and communicating is a testament to his strength as well as his overall incredible character. I already admire him. I keep him in my heart and my thoughts constantly...as well as you. Hold tight - he is surrounded by a circle of unseen arms and whispered healing words. Thank you for taking the time to update...and please take care of yourself as well. Hugs, kisses and love.
XOXOXOXO
Lisa

4:13 AM  
Blogger Sheila said...

Darlene, your update this morning is an answered prayer.
Mark obviously gets his strength from you, and you will both need that and courage for the weeks ahead. I look at his face and see a lovely young man full of life. His life is not over, it is just beginning, and in the weeks and months ahead he will find that for himself.I will continue to pray for him, and for you and your family.

4:25 AM  
Anonymous acumamakiki said...

This is such good news, that Mark is breathing on his own and such a strong boy. Any woman would be lucky to have a man such as your son Mark. His kind heart, gentle and strong spirit.....his scars will just be a testimony and 'mark' that he's truly special and blessed.

I cry every day when I come here and read about Mark. I continue to beam prayers and healing thoughts from NJ to Cali and I know that they are reaching him.

4:52 AM  
Anonymous Lunarmusings said...

I cannot stop crying as I read this... I am so touched by the strength in Mark, and in the love of your family. I continue to pray, send thoughts and love, and have been dedicating my morning mantras to him. The mantra is Om Shri Dhanvantre Namaha, and it is an invokation to the Divine Celestial Healer. Your strength and beauty as a Mother just comes of these "pages" and I am so so awed by you. Blessings to you...

4:53 AM  
Anonymous Lunarmusings said...

I cannot stop crying as I read this... I am so touched by the strength in Mark, and in the love of your family. I continue to pray, send thoughts and love, and have been dedicating my morning mantras to him. The mantra is Om Shri Dhanvantre Namaha, and it is an invokation to the Divine Celestial Healer. Your strength and beauty as a Mother just comes of these "pages" and I am so so awed by you. Blessings to you...

4:54 AM  
Blogger mrsnesbitt said...

Darlene, like so many here although I do not know you, when I switched on the computer this morning I wanted to see how Mark was and I was so pleased to read of his progress.

Take care dear, you are in my prayers.

Denise
UK

4:59 AM  
Blogger The Mad Hatter said...

Hi, I came from Susannah's blog. I just want to say I'm so so sorry, really, I feel your pain like its my own ... I cry tears for you.

I too have been through a similar accident, 4 years ago, losing the one I love, having that person die in my arms.

Im so glad that Mark is slowly on the mend, and its a pleasure to read what a great person in YOU, he had taking care of him :-)

Look after yourself too, you need to be strong, you are Marks strength now.

I'll pop by again to check how you both are :-)

Take care, your in my thoughts and prayers X

5:19 AM  
Anonymous poet said...

checking in and sending prayers. wonderful to read the progress he is making. as previously noted, his strength of character shines thorugh his tears. he will have a long way to go, but with baby steps and lots of love and support, he is going to make it. i have faith in that. love, poet

5:22 AM  
Blogger deni said...

My son is 24, I can't even imagine what you must be going through.

I am adding Mark and ya'll to my daily prayers.

5:28 AM  
Blogger Becca said...

Such a long road ahead for all of you, but you have good shoes to walk in, and lots of loving arms to support you. I'm so happy to read Mark is awake, and able to communicate with you. I'm sure that makes you feel much better.

You are all in my heart and in my prayers daily.

5:29 AM  
Blogger Trish Ryan said...

Darlene,
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit...

I'm standing with you believing for healing miracles for your son!

5:44 AM  
Blogger brittany said...

Oh, Darlene,

I can't believe what you all have been through in the past few days. a complete nightmare. I am so grateful to know that he is doing better, even if just a little, and will continue to pray for his recovery.

I am crying for him and all he will have to do to recover, and the "L" shaped scar that will be a reminder. But I think it will be a reminder of his incredible strength, physically, and emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. When there is a woman in his life, if she is the right one, this scar will deepen her love and affection. Instead of a scar from an ugly accident, she will see the marker of courage and strength and love of life.

He is a beautiful person, I can tell from his reaction to this trauma. You can rest easy, knowing you raised an incredible boy who has become an incredible man.

Love to you, my sister accross the miles and miles. Love to your son and your family.

I'll be looking forward to the next update.

5:45 AM  
Blogger britt said...

i am so glad to hear that things are looking up on his recovery! i am absolutely positive this will not affect his love life - to come from a family as loving as yours - he will absolutely find the right one eventually! you are such a loving mom! blessings and more prayers...

5:49 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

Darlene, for the past couple of days the very first thing I do when I turn on the computer is come to your blog to see if there's an update, so thank you for taking time from everything that's going on to let us all know of Mark's progress. I'm sitting here crying right now - good tears this time - to know that he's been awake and lucid, even if there's still a lot for him to go through.

When it comes time for his to see his scars I hope you'll tell him that somewhere out there is a woman who will love him so much that she will see that scar and she won't see ugliness. She'll see the day that medicine and Mark's own strength and will to live saved him and made it possible for her to find him. Tell him that's not his mom talking, that's some woman he's never met on the other side of the country who means every word. No scars would have mattered to me when I met my husband and Mark's scars won't matter to anyone who counts.

Much love and good thoughts to you all~~~~~

5:49 AM  
Anonymous robyn said...

i have cried for your son so many times. i am grateful for you and he and the rest of your family that he is off the ventilators and on the road to recovery.

it seems so strange to me that i feel so connected to this man. i live in nebraska, have never met you or he, and yet i can feel my heart tug out to the both of you.

i even sent an e-mail to your sister telling her all of this.

it is a strange and new sensation, to care this deeply about someone i have never met. i have the overwhelming urge to knit for him ... that's what i do, i knit.

i have an e-mail address [craftyone77(at)gmail(dot)com], and at some point, please e-mail me and let me know if it's okay to make him one. and if he needs a friend, someone who has had life kick her in the teeth a few times and has managed to get back up and bear it proudly, please pass it on to him.

6:00 AM  
Blogger Left-handed Trees... said...

Darlene,
Thank you for taking time in the midst of all you are going through to keep updates of Mark's progress coming. I'm thinking of you--hoping that your circle of family and friends have come in and just held you close, as those of us at a distance have also done these days. I have been cradling my three wildies in tight, thinking of how fragile we all are. I hope he improves steadily in the coming days...
Peace to you,
Delia

6:11 AM  
Blogger PaintingChef said...

I'm a stranger. I just came to your site through, I believe, your sister's site (Boho Girl). My heart goes out to you. My prayers, healing energy, and love are with you, your family, and your amazing and miraculous son. What a beautiful soul he seems to be. I'm so glad to hear that he is awake right now. I will be coming back often to keep up with his progress. Love to all of you.

6:14 AM  
Blogger Gemma said...

You are in our prayers

6:41 AM  
Blogger Star said...

What good news! I'm so glad that Mark is off the vent and able to communicate with you.

Your description of his treatment of those around him (all the thank yous and deep appreciation) reaffirms my belief that he will come through all that is ahead with flying colors. That kind of demeanor is a reflection of how he has been raised in your home, and that can only mean that you have instilled in him the strength and rock-solid faith you possess. The example you have set will go a long way in helping him remain positive as he faces each new challenge.

I know your sis is coming today and hope that when you are in the circle of her arms you will feel the arms of all of us loving you and supporting you as well.

Thank you for keeping us updated, Darlene. Expect miracles!

6:41 AM  
Blogger maggiegracecreates said...

I am so thrilled to hear of the improvements. His heartbroken scars of right now will heal.

The love of my life suffers from psoriasis. Not contagious but terribly unappealing in its appearance. The very first time I laid eyes on his entire body, he was covered with the raised patches and incredibly self conscious of it. My reaction. to kiss the most prominant spot. He remebers that to this day.

Mark will find that right person. The one like you have with your wonderful husband who deals with your lupus with love and encouragement.

He is being lifted by so many people. Keep pointing him toward that light. He will at some point see it again for himself.

I am praying for strength and healing for you all.

You are a beautiful family and we love you.

6:47 AM  
Blogger Kai said...

Blessings and thoughts for Mark, and for you..We all hold your hand Darlene..
Peace, Kai.

7:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a stranger that stumbled across your site via your sister's. So sorry your family is going through this. I am thinking about you all and praying. You will all get through it one day at a time.

7:07 AM  
Blogger jennifer said...

Darlene,

I am have been reading and my heart cries for you, your family and your son.
When my husband was 2 years old he was backed over by a car and had 10 blood transfusions, part of his liver and spleen removed and he almost died. he was in the hospital for 6 months.

He recovered fully, never has had a health problem since and his body is full of scars running around his chest, stomach and back, even scars where you can see the location of those tubes 37 years ago.

I was not put off by the scars, they are who he is and I just know Mark will one day find someone who does not care either!

My thoughts are with you...

Jennifer

7:15 AM  
Blogger daisies said...

my heart and my family's hearts go out to you, your family and especially Mark ... we are all praying for his recovery and for all of your strength during this time ~ the love and strength of your family will see you all through this ...

much love hon, so much love and care ...

warm hugs ...

7:30 AM  
Anonymous katie said...

Oh, so good to hear he is breathing on his own. It sounds like you raised a strong man. Scars may stay, but those who truly matter won't care. My husband has a huge deep scar down his front from an ordeal that took place in his early twenties. Take care of yourself and keep going, you're doing a great job. Again, I'm sending my hope and prayers your way.

7:34 AM  
Blogger liz elayne said...

the tears fall this morning and i read with such relief that our prayers are answered and mark is off the ventilator. i get up this morning and light the healing candle again and send light and prayers and hugs and moments of peace and support and love to you all...

my heart breaks for you all yet i know that the strength your family gives one another - the bond of love you all have - will be the beautiful joy that gets you through it all. love to you and yours dear girl...

7:37 AM  
Blogger Sioux said...

Mark and your family are in my prayers. God bless you all.

7:55 AM  
Blogger gena said...

I am so happy that Mark is breathing on his own,I am still praying for you and your amazing son.
Blessingsxx

8:05 AM  
Blogger Maryellen said...

I do not know your or your son, but I have a 30 year old daughter and have always known it would be worse to have it happen to her than me. I read your and your son's story an I will pray my prayer of peace for him as he heals. He sounds like he is your pride and joy and I hope and pray even harder that time will bring him around and back to you 100%. Bless you and my all the positive energy being directed to him from all over the world help him have the strength and courage to fight this battle.

And Mother, I am another Mother who cannot even begin to imagine what this is for you. Your strenght for him is wonderful. Heaven help you, your family and most of all your son.

8:07 AM  
Blogger Amber said...

I am crying this morning, as I read this update. Tears of relief that he is getting better, and also for his pain...

As a person who knows this trauma personally, I hope with all my heart-- No! I know. I know that Mark will one day see his scars as badges of courage and of being a survivor! He can be proud of himself. He lived, and he might have very well saved his friends lfe, too! This pain...it will bring him a certain wisdom and soulfulness. I know. And by what you say about who is already is, he is already a beautiful man. This experience will only refine that beauty. Fire it, so it is hard and strong and shinning.

He must have very important work to do here, for this to happen at such young age. His life is not over, but instead I think it will be extraordinary!

And as a woman, his scars would only make me love him more. Show me what he is capable of.

I hope I can raise my son to be a man like you have raised yours to be, Darlene. I would be very proud.

..still praying for you all, and sending you love.

Amber :)

8:12 AM  
Blogger twoblueday said...

Thank you for the update, my thoughts are with you and your son and family.

8:17 AM  
Blogger deirdre said...

This all sounds so good and hopeful. He's got a long, hard path ahead, but he's got the strength to walk it with people who love him. You sound better too. Shock is a strange creature. Breathe well.

8:21 AM  
Anonymous Teresa Sheeley said...

So glad to hear Mark is somewhat lucid. It sounds like prayers are being answered for him. I was thinking yesterday about how courageous and determined Mark was. He is a fighter and was not going to give up. Not many people have the strength to pull themselves up for help after a tragic accident as this.

You have taught him strength and courage as he has seen this through your struggle with your illness. You have given him the knowledge of perseverance and determination. His life is far from over, but just beginning. He has had the faith and strength to push himself.

Thank you for the updates, my eyes get swollen with tears each time I read one, I can feel the closeness you have with your baby boy, but can honestly say I can't imagine the pain you have right now as I have never experienced such tragedy. My prayers are still fervent and may God bless you with comfort and courage and strength.

Love you!

xxoo Teresa

8:32 AM  
Anonymous holli said...

I have come here from two different blogs. Our family has survived 4 very serious, life-threatening situations by what must be miracle and the power of prayer. Your post just broke my heart as I could feel your emotion.. and his.

I'm so sorry - but I do believe that miracles happen. I have seen them with my very own eyes. I will send prayers and positive energy your way.

8:32 AM  
Blogger JanePoe said...

Dear Dar,
What a lovely, kind and beautiful soul you sweet son has. To hear of his graciousness and gratitude in this moment is overwhelming. It doesn't surprise me though, with you as his mum. I'm glad he's alert and you're able to talk with him now ... that must be such a relief.
Much peace, love and healing prayers for you and yours, my dear ... d

8:41 AM  
Blogger Tammy said...

Your son is amazingly strong and will need time to process but his will to live is strong!

Continued prayers & hugs.

8:48 AM  
Blogger Sauntering Soul said...

Wow Darlene. I don't really know what to add that others haven't already said here. I think Mark's strength, both physically and emotionally and his very apparent appreciation for those who are helping him heal speak volumes about the example you and your family have taught him over his 24 short years. He's learned from the best it seems!

My hope for him is that one day he will view his scars as evidence of his incredible strength. I echo the voices of others here who have said that the scars will not make the right woman turn the other way, but rather deepen her love and admiration for the obstacles he has been able to overcome. I am also single and can understand his fears, but please remind him that no one is perfect. It's the bumps and bruises (and sometimes scars) that will help make him the man that "perfect for him woman" falls in love with.

My prayers and thoughts continue to be with you and your family.

8:55 AM  
Blogger Uber Mer said...

Like many others, I don't know you but I am compelled to check in on you. I am compelled to read each morning Mark's progress. I am so relieved to hear of his improvements. I know the road will be long and hard, but your family is so obviously strong. Your WILL get through this. I still pray for Mark, you, and your family's strength.

I wish you warm, healing, peaceful thoughts.
~ Meridith

8:57 AM  
Blogger Keely said...

So glad to hear there have been some improvements. As a soon to be mother, I can only imagine the pain you must be going through and the amount of strength you have. I'll be praying for your family and especially Mark. Bless you all.

9:07 AM  
Blogger JulieZS said...

Darlene, I am sending you and Mark prayers for strength, hope and peace. Breathing on his own is a huge thing, once the body can do that, healing can come much faster. Holding you in my prayers and light this morning.

9:20 AM  
Blogger alison said...

*hugshugshugs*
sending lots and lotsa love to mark and your family.

9:22 AM  
Anonymous Janet said...

I am so sorry to hear about your son's accident, but am VERY glad to read of his improving condition! Please know he's in my thoughts...such a handsome man!

9:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

there are also prayings from Spain.

I send you love and hope from the other side of the Atlantic sea.

9:54 AM  
Blogger Brown eyed girl said...

To Mark:
You are a hero to all of us! People you have never met are moved intensely by your story, praying and thinking of you constantly. The circle around you is incredible! Life IS NOT over, it seems like it today, I know. The new life you will begin will be filled with things that you could've never imagined. Compassion, strength, courage you cannot explain! I'm speaking from experience...I was bedridden 2 years, and I also had to give my 8month old daughter CPR and spend time in the hospital with her on tubes etc. These were 2 times I was sooo angry with God, and I still wish never happened, but despite these, Life didn't end. The support, the miracles, the new awareness I gained is insight and depth I would never take back. I cry for your pain right now! I wish I was there for your mom and you and your family, even though you don't know me. I want you to know you are soooo handsome!! And you're mom writes of what a catch you'd be, hey I'd ask for a hook up if I wasn't married!:) Any woman now is going to be nothing but blessed and darn lucky to be with such an incredible hero, that's also super gorgeous!!
I'm praying for you constantly. Love to you from Oregon, Michelle

9:56 AM  
Anonymous Kim in IN said...

I am still,and will continue,to lift your precious Mark up to God.
It doesn't matter that we don't know each other. I am a mama of of 5 children,two of whom are grown. They are still my babies. As Mark is yours.
Hang in there mama~he is strong and young and has a wonderful family to lean on...
Blessings,
Kim in IN

9:57 AM  
Blogger Brown eyed girl said...

Darlene, thank you again for your update, I come in check my computer often for updates. Literary Girl and I feel soooo connected, we want to be with you right now. Please read my message to Mark for me! Love you,,,,
Expecting more Miracles..
Michelle

9:58 AM  
Blogger Georgia said...

I wish I were there with you so that I could hold your hand right now.
I am glad to hear that he is now breathing on his own and able to talk and communicate that way.

I hope that when he see's his scars he will see them as a challenge that he overcame. I personally would NEVER care about somebody's scars, and I know that most women feel this way. What we all want is a man who is loving and kind... Sounds like the kind of man Mark is.

I am still praying for you all.

Love.
Georgia

10:11 AM  
Anonymous Jenn said...

I know you through the sweet boho girl but wanted to say you, your son and your family are in the hearts and prayers of so many. I hope you can feel our stregnth around you.

10:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been reading your blog in the shadows for a while. I just needed to tell you that your son is in my prayers every night. I too have been though this and know where you right now. My love is with you and your family. It brought me to tears reading your updates remembering our car accident. The feelings of fear, saddness and the unknown came flowing back into my body. I will keep checking in. Just remember he is a strong boy and he will pull though this. My love and thoughts are with you and your family in this time of need. JB

10:25 AM  
Blogger amy said...

Darlene,
While i don't know you as many of the folks leaving comments before have said, I wanted to let you know that I was praying for your son and entire family. As I was praying for Mark, I felt God "give" me the word: influence. I am not sure what that means completely, but be encouraged, as I believe it means he will be a strong influence on many people's lives for many years.
I pray for complete healing and am excited to see all God has in store for your son.

10:26 AM  
Blogger Turquoise CRO said...

May God Bless YOU all Darlene! I'm so GLAD he is off the vent! and breathing on his own! There is nothing as strong as mother's love and that is soooo sweet, him thanking everyone and YOU as you gave him ice chips and nursed him.I pray for your strength because he needs YOU!
Is there any way we can send cards to the hospital? and Yes, thank YOU for the updates, it is soooo amazing, prayers are being said for MARK all over this world!!!! Alleluia!!!!!!! LOVE YOU darling Darlene! and your family are all in my prayers! Thinking of YOU and sweet Mark and your family lots and lots!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoo, Cinda ps. as for the scar, he need not worry about that, some woman will love him all the more for it, for all he has been through, my husband had melanoma when my youngest son was only a few months old and he has a big scar! and a big sweet heart just like your son has! love and prayers

10:30 AM  
Anonymous glo said...

It's wonderful to hear that he is off the ventilator. Your baby is slowly getting better!! :) I truly wish I was in CA so that I could donate blood or help in some other way. I will continue to pray for him and your family from here in NJ. God bless
xo glo

10:32 AM  
Blogger amy said...

What a testamony to hear the word "thank- you" repeatedly from a boy is such pain. I wish I had some profound thing to say, but all I have is that I will continue to pray for Mark, you & your family, and that you will have some kind of Christmas together.

10:42 AM  
Blogger Jemima said...

I'm sure I've nothing to add that hasn't been said. So sorry to read you're going through so much. It's awful and I hope in my little way that you're ok and Mark recovers. You obviously brought him up well, if he has such manners in such a situation.

{{{hugs}}}

Mima X

10:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My prayers, thoughts, and good vibes are with you, your family, and especially your son. My husband is a trauma nurse, and I read your comments to him. When I said Mark was breathing on his own, my hubs said, "that's the first victory". I thought I would share that, as it seemed like it might bring comfort. God bless you and your family.

10:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Something very similar happened to a guy I knew years ago. He was about the same age as Mark and was diving in the Greek Islands. He dove head-first straight onto a rock under the ocean's surface and had some very serious injuries all over his body - bones broken, internal bleeding etc. In fact, when he floated back to the surface his friends thought he was gone... It took about a year for him to fully recover, but recover he did. He was young, strong and fit, as your son is, before the accident, which stood him in great stead. So there is so much to be hopeful about, and hopeful for! Warm wishes and blessings for a speedy recovery for Mark. Oh - and lots of girls like scars. They are the sign of a strong man, a survivor.

11:15 AM  
Blogger mama al said...

checking in a few times a day, and keepin' these candles burnin' and prayers coming...

I ache for you as a mama, and am sending you strength vibes as well, you are amazingly strong woman, no doubt this will help pull him through as well...

11:17 AM  
Blogger LEstes65 said...

Please know that you and your family have prayers from Texas. Trish (Trish's Dishes) sent out the prayer Bat-signal and it is answered. I read Psalm 91 last night. Check it out. I hope it helps you and your son.

11:58 AM  
Blogger Romina Bacci said...

I'm crying so much I don't think I could comment something here now... just wanted to send all my love to you and Mark, and I'll email you later. xoxo

12:03 PM  
Blogger luzie said...

I'm so relieved to read that he's awake, breathing on his own and talking. His injuries sound gruesome to me and what this must be like for you is completely beyond my understanding.. May he'll continue to recover even if ever so slowly; thinking of you.

12:14 PM  
Anonymous LB said...

I'm so sorry that your family is going through this. I know, from reading Denise's blog regularly, that your family is full of strength and magic and hope and power. And I am sending you warmth and belief and everything positive and possible.

1:09 PM  
Blogger Patry Francis said...

Glad to hear that he is breathing on his own and showing a strong spirit. We are all praying for you and your family, Darlene, and telling others to pray, too.

1:24 PM  
Blogger Pattie said...

First time commenter. I came over from Amber's blog, the Believing Soul. I just want you to know that I am sending my prayers and good wishes for your son and your family. Your post brought me to tears...

1:25 PM  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

Glad that you can now talk to Mark and that he is breathing on his own. You have been in my thoughts and prayers constantly this week and I continue to run to the computer for updates as often as possible. Hope everyday brings a miracle and more hope.

1:34 PM  
Blogger red sun said...

Just wanted you to know that I'm still thinking about you... and, of course, trying to send all the healing energy that I can.

Please take care of you too.

1:53 PM  
Blogger Christy said...

Please know we are praying for you, every prayer we know and ones that we make up along the way. It IS the season of magic...may that touch and bless all of you in everyway.

1:56 PM  
Blogger Pink Granite said...

Darlene- We are still holding you and Mark in our thoughts. So happy to learn of any and all progress. Keep nourishing yourself. Keep reminding Mark how much power he has to heal.
Two members of my family both came through terrible, lengthy illnesses and went on to thrive. Wonderful, miraculous things do happen. - Lee

1:58 PM  
Blogger Dotee said...

Thankyou so much for taking the time to update us Darlene.

Am so, so pleased that Mark is lucid. He is an amazing person and I am amazed at how strong he is (and you are).

Sending a gazillion hugs your way.

Much love

Dotee xoxo

2:38 PM  
Blogger Shona Cole said...

It seems to be a miracle, given your past posts about the accident, that you can talk you your son again. Praise God for that. Prayers are being answered. You are living through what all of us dread most - to see your precious child hurt - with such strength and poise. How beautiful to read about him saying thank you to his helpers, what a wonderful mother you must be to have raised such a man in such a world. I will keep praying for him.

2:50 PM  
Blogger giggles said...

Darlene...I am praying all is well, I made a
Heart For Mark
I didn't sleep last night thinking about You and Mark...today my daughter shared in a moment of tears with me....trust me...we rarely cry in this house...It's so close to home when you know so many boys Marks age...it could be any of our Children...so some of your pain is our pain! Take care and know we are all with you!

Love and Hugs from Canada
Sherrie and Pepper

3:10 PM  
Blogger mrsnesbitt said...

It ia approaching midnight here Darlene, ut just wanted you to know I WAS THINKING OF BOTH mARK AND YOU AS i MAKE MY WAY TO BED.

dXXX

3:41 PM  
Anonymous Schmoopy said...

I have been thinking about you and Mark. Continued positive thoughts and hugs go out to you. He is strong and will get through this. He is so blessed to have such an amazing family to help him through this and the right girl for him won't even see his scars. She will only know them as a part of who he is, something that made him stronger and more appreciative of life, and love.

4:00 PM  
Anonymous Casey said...

Although I do not know you and your family, my ability to pray for you is no different. I will continue to pray for supernatural healings, miracles, and blessings for Mark and your family.

I pray that the scars on his body will be a continual reminder of God's grace and mercy to Mark and to his future girlfriend and wife. May each glance at a scar remind him and your family of God's healing power!

God is going to do amazing things through such an strong and brave man...He has great things in store for Mark!

5:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Darlene, I am a stranger but I have been praying and I will continue praying and to light candles. I am so happy that he is off the ventilator. I agree with what Susannah said about women still finding Mark attractive. And, yes we all carry scars and bear scars from our journey on this planet. Some of us (maybe the warriors)...just get them earlier. The right woman will know this and see how kind, talented, and attractive he is.

Please eat and rest when you can. I am sending love.

In my thoughts and prayers,



Chalaundrai

5:03 PM  
Blogger Kim G. said...

Darlene -
I've just read all the entries about Mark and I'm so thrilled to see that some positive signs in his healing have come today. I can't tell you how much it says about Mark's character that even in the depths of his pain and despair, he can still say "thank you". I'm confident that the Creator will bless that gratitude with hope and peace that only He can bring. I'll be praying for strength for you and your family as you walk this path with Mark. Let him know we are all pulling for him and lifting prayers for his full recovery.

Love to you and yours!

5:16 PM  
Blogger Jenny Rough said...

That's great that Mark was taken off the ventilator. Without any medical background whatsoever, that just sounds like a critical step.

And this may sound silly, but I dated a guy in my 20s with a huge scar on his chest and I was proud -- of him, of his survival, of the fact that love is what really counts.

God bless,
- J

5:26 PM  
Blogger melba said...

I have been reading your story here and through out our blogging community. When I first read about what happened I just sat here and cried. I have two young children...even now this is difficult to write, but I know these comments help in some small way. I am praying for you and your son and your family and sending love and light your way.
XO,
Melba

5:44 PM  
Blogger twitches said...

I just heard about this - I'm keeping your family in my thoughts!!! Take extra extra care and keep up your strength!!

5:44 PM  
Blogger chiefbiscuit said...

Having a son the same age ... well ... what more do I need to say? Praying for you and for Mark. 'Let your heart take courage'.

5:45 PM  
Blogger Jerri said...

Blessings to you and Mark, Darlene. I came to your blog through Amber and Liz Elayne.

Tonight, as the Earth turns toward the Light, I am lighting candles and sending prayers for Mark, for you, and for your family. May the Light warm and strengthen you as it carries you to better days.

You are in my heart.

5:46 PM  
Anonymous leonie said...

I want you to know that I am also praying for Mark and for you and all of your family. I cannot imagine what you are all going through. I will light a candle when i get home and send healing thoughts across the globe. Much love.

6:02 PM  
Blogger Tea & Margaritas in My Garden said...

So very glad to hear of the improvement! Though we are all strangers here, our hearts are united in prayer that your son recovers totally.
God Bless you and your family

tea
xo

6:10 PM  
Blogger Kami said...

I read your story for the first time today, and bawled. This doesn't happen to me very often...

For what it's worth, I'll be adding my prayers and warm wishes to the hundreds already sent.

Much love to you and your family.

8:10 PM  

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